Saying 'NO', how old was LO?

[LittleMonkeysMum]

DD, 10 months is crawling all over the place, and each day I find more things which really ought to be moved out of her reach. I seem to remember Baby Whisperer saying that she didn't move anything, just taught LO not to go near things by saying 'NO' very firmly and repeatedly. I just hate the idea of constantly telling her 'NO' when she's just discovering, but I suppose it would be good if she was aware that there are things she shouldn't play with, by which I mean eat or bang on the ground!!
What do you think, what did you do?

i remember saying 'ouch' and 'burnies' alot of the time too to keep them away from things

I did thius and she totally did learn what she shouldn't be doing, although I found it just meant she tried to do it quicker or did it infront of me with a cheeky grin whilst looking at mer. Oh and the other drawback is that she now says no ALL the time to me, she started about a month ago, when she was 16 months. It's actually very cute the way she says it

I say no to dd sometimes and she is nearly 9mths. I say no if she is standing up in the bath and sit her down or as you said if she is playing with things she shouldnt. Thing is she just laughs at me and carries on where ds quite quickly grasped what things were no and didnt go near them.

Ds is 10 months. He was crawling for the fire the other day (it wasn't on) and I did a loud "ah ah ah" noise. Poor little mite screwed up his face and burst into tears! I felt TERRIBLE cos he was in such a jolly little mood up till then.

Mind you, I'd rather he got upset now than burn himself when the fire IS on

I thought that I would be able to teach ds not to go near stuff so used to say NO, quite firmly and remove him.
it didn't work though. he would just go abck again and again unitl I had to move it,.
When he started talking it was quite sad too, because he would go to pick something up (anything, even toys) adt hen shake his head and say "no, no"
So, I have stopped saying it to him

I said no quite alot with DS, he's now 18mths and constantly tells me NO, naughty! Now just try and say "don't do that sweetheart" as I felt I was constantly saying no every 5 seconds

I say no to ds (12months) but it doesn't "work" (he just grins and does it again) and I don't really want to say it anyway...I try to do distraction onstead or if I do say no, i say "oh no we don't do that do we?" or something equally silly. I do sometimes find myself squawking "NO" at him when he grabs for a glass off the table or something equally potentially bad...it's a reflexive response...it rarely works though.

I have used No since as soon as ds1 or ds2 have been mobile in conjunction with :

• 'Tatata' when they are doing/going to do something they shouldn't
• and going to physically remove them from whatever they are doing
• No with an explanation like 'it's hot', 'daddy's CDs' etc...
• Distract when possible but I have 2 strong willed childs so not easy to do.... I don't think that just saying NO to a 10 months old is enough. I always get up to remove them from the situation otherwise it doesn't seem to have any effect at that age. Still do it with ds1 at 3yo when he obviously doesn't care.

God yes, I don't just sit on my arse and say 'no' and expect ds to stop trying to smash a wodden block through the TV screen!

Also have removed as amny things as possible that are NOs so that I don't have to say it too often.
hairymclary, it is normal for a toddler to go through a stage where they are saying NO whislt doing the forbidden thing. They are too young to internalize interdictions and it is just their way to learn about it. I wouldn't feel sad about it, it's just a development stage but I agree that reducing the possibilty of a NO goes a long way.

I try to use no as little as possible so when I really need to say it (running towards the road, dangerous objects, etc) it sounds like I really mean it. DD is 12 months and into turning the TV off constantly. It's just a matter of taking her away, distracting her, giving her other things to play with because she thinks 'no' is funny.

I also moved anything I really didn't want broken up out of reach but also left a couple of less important bits around so that they could learn to be gentle and how to handle things carefully. So far it seems to have worked.

Hmmmmm, good plan re. leaving a few less important/less dangerous things within reach for training purposes. DD also is regularly trying out her lovely new teeth on my neck and shoulders, I swear she's going to draw blood one of these days, and she just finds 'NO' funny when she does that. Glad she's not the only one finding 'NO' funny. Cheers for advice/experiences. x

My older DD (now 4) responded really well to 'no' and was never even that curious about bleach and small choking items, but my 10-month-old is a like a demon - fingers in the shredder, head in the toilet, poking to cat's eyes - you name it, she's up to it. It's all a bit of a shock to the system after no.1. So I trying 'no' plus explanation, and whn I am not too knackered, a bit of distraction. But does anyone else find that the minute you stop 'distracting' they race off to the forbidden thing immediately and at top speed??

i've said no to dd since she started crawling around 9 months to keep her away from dangerous things like the fireplace... by 11 months i didn't have to pull her away 90% of the time, just say no firmly and clearly and she'd turn away from whatever it was.

lets face it, grown ups hear the word no every day of their lives, why shield a child from that so that they can't cope when denied things when their older?

shes 19 months, has loads of words including no, but rarely uses it at all... in fact her current favopurite word is 'yeh' said with a cheeky smile and a nod of the head!