Dad hating parental leave (9mnth DS)

[purplemurple1]

Its that simple really. OH keeps telling me he is fed up of being on parental leave and wants to go back to work, as he is bored.
He does lots in the day (maybe too much), but not really involving the baby as its house maintenance, painting, reading for work, etc. DS is just nearby playing, eating, (not crawling yet).
If I'm honest I was fairly bored during my mat leave as well and worked from home a lot as DS was still sleeping loads then. We don't have a nursery place until 1st Sept so DS can't start earlier.

So what does everyone else do on parental leave, how do you invole the baby for more than the odd 5 min of play here and there, and should you be entertaining them constantly anyway?
Oh and we are in a v small village, so no swiming, parental groups type things to go to.

Welcome.to the world of many mums it was I would say to him!

Can you see if the nursery will take him earlier? Can he go swimming, take him on outings instead of staying in?

Its a tough one. I found maternity leave really boring too so I hear where he's coming from. It takes a very special person to play with a 9mth old baby for a sustained period of time.

Is there no chance you could move the nursery place forward so he can go back to work? Or is there a family member who could help out?

Failing that he'll just have to suck it up. I coped by getting out of the house a lot. The weather's so gorgeous now, I'd be planning day trips (with my interest in mind) all over the place.

Surely other local villages or towns have groups?? Our sure start centres all run dad's groups too. Local libraries often do baby rhyme time.

Alternatively walks out, is your ds able to sit unaided? If so why not look at the seats for a bike and they can go out for bike rides to pass the time?

I found it very isolating until I made a couple of friends through baby groups, now we meet up for walks in the park, coffee, mooching round shops etc

Could you get a childminder so he could go back k for a couple of days a week maybe?

Looking after young children IS boring - why has it been fobbed off on women for centuries? - well, that's why!

I experimented with new cakes and cooking while on Maternity leave - and read a lot of books and napped (as I was tired!).

Not having daily chit chat with adults is the worst bit - you really have to go out and search for it - work fulfills a lot of social needs for a lot of people, and it's easy and you don't have to think about it.

Sadly, he'll just have to find ways of getting out and about and not being bored.