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Help! 7 month old screams & screams when with dad

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Kernow1973 · 12/06/2014 19:51

Hello any of you recognise this? It's probably not rocket science why she does this but looking for how to resolve it. 7 month old screams at very loud volume hysterically crying (enough to make herself gag) when held by dad. Will calm instantly when passed to me. Wondering how to resolve this as it's distressing for her, causing a rift with her dad, limiting for me & worries me as she starts nursery in a few months. I know she's very attached to me as I do all her childcare. Husband might change 2 nappies a week& that's extent of his role. Yes he works full time & he has more input with our 4 yr old but to be honest he's not yet bonded with the baby. She was refluxy at birth & also has loud piercing cry, and cried a lot. Poor mite. Husband has little patience & gets cross quickly & does stupid things like shouting back at her or clapping his hands when she cried. (Yeah I know...) hence I didn't want him to hold her much. So no surprises age us how she is. I suggested he needs to get more involved eg bath time or bottle & he pulled a face. He was more involved with first child but she was placid & easy. They have great relationship. Any suggestions please???

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Iggly · 12/06/2014 20:17

Tell your DH to grow the fuck up? No wonder she screams at him.

I would be seriously talking to him and explaining why this behaviour is not on and that she is a baby and he is the adult. He needs to control his emotions.

MexicanSpringtime · 12/06/2014 20:37

Oh dear, he is doing all the wrong stuff, isn't he?

If he really cared, he would play with her a lot without picking her up until she gets over this. My dgc used to cry when anyone other than her parents picked her but now she goes happily with people who have had the patience not to try to pick her up during that stage.

mustardtomango · 13/06/2014 13:05

It's no good him leaving it all to you... Does he realise he has to help this relationship grow? It's the start of a long road of inequality between your children if he can't take the time now.

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Kernow1973 · 13/06/2014 23:58

Mexicanspringtime thanks for the helpful advice. And good to know I'm not the only one.

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