Bossy SAHM and hero dads (in children's eyes)

[littleraysofsunshine]

Anyone else feel this way? I know do earns the money for our family but I am sick of being the one who is the moany bossy one of the bays days where all the kids want to have a meltdown. Daddy comes through the door and he's a hero! Yet I'm the one doing nursery runs, shopping with kids, cooking, changing leaky nappies, trying to handle mood swings all ways. Oh and then there's the feeling like I'm not the one earning money, feelin like my role is irrelevant

Well, never had that, but, as long as your husband isn't offloading all the discipline onto you or, worse still, undermining you, your children are very fortunate to have a loving father, IMHO.

They're very fortunate. I just sometimes feel like everything I do isn't enough because it's not always fun for them (ie: having to correct them if doing something naughty, getting dressed is a dilemma for a three year old, shoes on etc) daddy does all the fun ... It seems in their eyes

Yes sometimes I feel this way too. It's exaggerated as DH cannot lift 2 yr old DS as he had back surgery recently so any negotiating with DS is done with me i.e. you are going into the bath as i will lift you in. It's nice though that DS always looks to me when he needs something or is hurt or sore or sad. I try and give him as much of my undivided attention as possible, difficult when you have chores etc, but this really makes a difference especially if we have had a really fun day together.

I feel like this so often. I'm always the bad guy

Yes! I completely understand this!
My DD's daddy no longer lives here but comes around a lot to see her and I spend all my time currently dealing with tantrums and fusses and meltdowns. Feel like i say no all day long and daddy comes in and it's all smiles laughs fun playing!! SAHM is tough, but like Pp said, she comes to me if hurt or sad or anything. I'm her rock and I know it. So it's not a bad.