To the other mum in the GP's reception this morning

[highlove]

I totally understand that when you're out and about and you've finally got your baby to sleep that you inwardly think "please shut up" when someone else's LO is crying/screaming. But glaring and tutting and rocking your buggy more and more aggressively to make clear your baby is sleeping and you are irritated is not really ok. Unless perhaps the other LO's parent is ignoring the screaming while they smoke crack. You'll have noticed I wasn't doing that but was quite clearly trying to soothe and placate my poor almost 14 week-old who is teething and, like many babies, struggling with the hot weather. Your baby was very new so I'll give you the benefit of the doubt that you've yet to experience that moment when your baby is having a total meltdown in public and nothing you can do seems to soothe him/her. I promise you it will happen and you will be incredibly grateful for anyone who's nice about it and sympathetic. I hope you don't come across anyone like you who made a stressful situation ten times worse. Believe me, I wanted her to stop screaming more than you did.

I cried on the way home so well done you.

Oh dear :(

Just ignore her. She'll probably look back and laugh at herself for being pfb over nap in a waiting room, anyway.

If it's any help at all my almost four year old rolled around on the floor of the Drs yesterday screaming "it's taking aaaaaaages" (she was sick and in pain).

I couldn't have cared less what people thought - once you've been through the toddler stage your embarassment threshold is much higher

Hope you feel better today

Sorry she made you cry, op.

Dd 10 months is practicing her new favourite, glass breaking squeal at the moment and it's so stressful.

Other woman - shame on you

Hope that you are feeling better now and that your daughter is okay now too. Don't worry she get hers one day. Although maybe you could feel sorry for her because the moment of realisation that you cannot calm down a screaming child is horrible, even more so for someone who has very high expectations of how children should act if only the parents took proper responsibility. Not only do they have a crying child to deal with but their own ego as well.

I was in M&S once and 12 week old DS was screaming. I spotted some snotty cow by the makeup section look over at us, make a face and roll her eyes. So I decided that I could probably use some makeup too so headed over there with screaming DS and looked at nail polish in great detail. She didn't dare say anything of course!

Sorry to hear about what happened OP. No doubt one day she will be in your situation and realise how unreasonably she was.

I'm sure she will eventually be on the other side of this and will look back and laugh at herself!

This might make you smile: I was in the waiting room last week and a little girl declared loudly and dramatically, every two minutes, 'I'm NOT waiting a MOMENT longer!!!! This is RIDIDILUS!!!' and flopped around like a fish. Every time her DM would go 'righto then' and turn a page in her magazine. The whole room was shaking with suppressed giggles

Thanks all. Feeling much better now, thank you. She and I retired to nice cool bedroom for cuddles and a nap and she's much more chilled out now. Ad to that other woman...as you all say...she'll learn

When I'm out and about and DD is napping then I know where she will stay asleep and where she will be woken, I would be suprised if she stayed asleep in Drs waiting room as people do talk and chat away and kids moan or be loud in general. She's in the wrong for thinking a drs waiting room should be silent!
Hope your not worrying about her now! Have a glass of and forget her!

Lucky for her that she doesn't have twins. Mine had to put up with screaming from their twin from day one, often in each other's ears side by side in a cot. They have survived.

Sorry op

The day will come when it happens to her!!!!! My baby has a meltdown in public most days - it's comical now as he's known as meltdown Velcro baby!. I used to cry more than he did to be honest hahha ....

Keep smiling & trust me that silly woman will have her day!!!

I was on a bus taking DT1 to a hospital appointment. DT2 had a raging, screaming, throwing himself about tantrum. A woman huffed and puffed and eventually told everyone around her that she was getting off at the next stop, it was ridiculous how THAT child was making her walk the rest of the way. I just asked her if she would like me to tie my toddler up and gag him? The whole bus gave my a round of applause, which distracted DT2 and he didn't make another peep for the rest of the journey. Silly woman still got off at the next stop

OP all my babies (now on number 3) have had meltdowns in public. All high needs/Velcro babies and I've had many stares and glares and comments.

It gets me so stressed sometimes the sweat rolls off me and my stomach goes in knots

she sounds like a complete bitch. The sound of her tutting would have annoyed me more than your baby .

my 2yo screamed round sainsburys yesterday so I am an expert in these things.

so a mother of a newborn baby, at the gp, looked stressed and grumpy? maybe it's not all about you? maybe she had pnd and the screams of her own child were driving her demented and your child's were the last straw for someone on the verge of losing it? maybe she went home and cried too?
who knows? but it doesn't sound worth getting het up over.

Er right sanfairy...so it's ok to take that out on another clearly stressed mum with a slightly older baby at the GP's? Maybe I have PND and that pushed me over? (And as it happens I'm having a pretty tough time with a high needs baby with feeding issues.) I didn't challenge her, mainly because I was trying to console my baby but also because I wouldn't ever go out of my way to get shitty with someone in public. But it did upset me and don't think it's that unreasonable to have a gentle rant on here about it. I certainly felt much better for doing so!

My baby is like that mother . If there's another crying baby in the vicinity he searches out the mother, not the father (sexist), and GLARES them into the middle of next week. If he could speak I'm pretty sure he would be saying, "why don't you just FEED your poor baby?".

so how exactly did she 'take that out' on you?

Getting visibly angry with me - glaring at me and melodramatic tutting and huffing and puffing and shaking her head at me. I get that in the bigger scheme of things it's pretty trivial but surely you can also see that would make an already stressful situation worse. And you might expect a tiny bit of sympathy from a mum of another young baby - is certainly have been sympathetic to her had it been her baby.

NorahBone - your post cracked me up as my DS does the same thing! He'll actually twist his head around exorcist style to shoot a glare!

Highlove - I have experienced a similar thing in docs waiting room when taking DS for jabs. Don't worry, that lady will be in a similar situation at some point and she'll realise that her reaction was not very kind!

I've only just learnt to accept that sometimes DS will cry loudly in public and that sometimes there is nothing I can do to stop it! Most mums understand and sympathise! X

Ds has ASD and Dd is a demanding toddler. she probably would have spontaneously combust if I was there with DC