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DS will not sleep alone

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FragileBrittleStar · 09/06/2014 08:15

DS (4) has never been a good sleeper but I am now at my wits end. He comes into us pretty much every night in the small hours and stays. He is a dredfully restless sleeper and like to sleep very close to me (on my face)- if I leave to go to the spare room he will follow me -F DP leaves he will stay with me- and may spread out a little - but then he gets upset when I get up in the morning.
He has a groclock which used to sort of work - then he decided that not getting up until its yellow meant he could still shout for me.
we go through periods of training him (ie taking him back everytime) which is hard work (it is easier sometimes to give in - and it is hard at 3 am to stick to it) - but also doesn't seem to last- the minute there is any change in routine (holiday/illness etc) he is back in. He says he doens't like being on his own.

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Freckletoes · 09/06/2014 08:36

No real advice but just to say you're not alone! My DS3 was like this-he had his first full night sleeping at 6! He didn't disturb quite as much as yours so I was quite happy to just let him snuggle in and get back to sleep-I had 10 yrs of no full night sleep. But now he is the most affectionate caring little soul who loves cuddles and keeps me sane while his older siblings are hormonal horrors!

Iggly · 09/06/2014 08:42

Does he snore? I'm just wondering if something is stopping him getting into a deep sleep. Eg sleep apnoea or intolerances giving him discomfort.

My ds is 4 and used to be very unsettled at night. To get him used to sleeping in his room, we set up (a very comfy) bed in his room and stay in there. We were all much more rested that way. He still wakes up and calls for us occasionally but this is usually because he's ill or needs the toilet. All reasonable requests (I don't want him wandering the place at night!)

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FragileBrittleStar · 09/06/2014 08:59

he seems to be in a deep sleep initiallY- I think it is when hecome to the end of a sleep cycle that he comes in.
he has never been good at going to sleep by himself and seems to be getting worse at that (he wants me to lie next to him and stroke him while he goes to sleep)

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lola88 · 09/06/2014 09:53

Would picking a special teddy work then he's not alone DS has just started to go to bed without us but he takes his 2 babies (teddies) with him so he's not alone. DS is 2 though so might not work with an older child we alone have a night light that he can put on if he wakes up.

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