Me and my husband have been talking for over a year whether or not now is the time to try for a baby, we've finally decided we're in a good potion and have bit the bullet.
Although sometimes I have this fleeting feeling that I'm being horribly selfish.
I have a mental 'disability' (I'd rather not say what) that could be passed on to my child. I manage my 'condition' better than I could ever dream of doing without the need of medication or counselling.
The only time I truly suffered from it was in my teenage years before I had my diagnose and couldn't understand why I struggled so much with dealing with things like my emotions while my peers seemed handle things much better than me. I was repeatedly told it was better not to 'put a name on it' and it was better to just try carry on.
After coming to terms with why I was this why and learning how to deal with it I managed to enter a loving marriage, buy a home and build my confidence up so much I even started my own business.
But sometimes I think about what if my child gets what I have? What if they go through all the horrible things I went through? Should I put more of people like myself in the world (this one's always a sort thought because I just remember how unstable my SIL is despite being NT)
This isn't going to stop me and my husband trying but I was curious do other people ever think about things like this? Mentally or physically disabled and how did family members react to pregnancy announcements?