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Do you ever REALLY LOSE THE PLOT...?

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noonar · 02/09/2006 18:37

i feel terrible, i've just really lost it, and had a mega tantrum. not directly AT my kids, but dds- 2 and 4 were within earshot of my door slamming, kicking over of kitchen chairs, stomping about saying 'sod the lot of you...i can't cope anymore etc etc...'

why? dh was not at home today, and by saturday i've really had enough of the monotony of being home alone. dd 1 said was that she wanted cbeebies and i couldnt get the remote to work, and they just kept asking on and on, and then i lost it (cue dreadful stomping about...) they didn't really DO anything wrong, but i had zero patience left after a long week.

i feel awful, dd2 keeps coming up for cuddles but dd1 is staying out of my way.

this doesn't happen often, but when it does , i feel like the crappest mum in the world.

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noonar · 02/09/2006 21:01

Krythia, i've just read your thread and i really feel for you. i've had some issues with depression myself and have often wondered if i could ever cope ith a 3rd. best of luck to you.

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hermykne · 02/09/2006 21:11

noonar it happens,
havent read rest of thread so hope not repeating
but dont feel too bad for too long, they know u love them when u tuck them up in bed.
and i think if u talk to them abot it next day and say u were feeling really "whatever" and they did X to annoy/upset u (whatever word u chose) then it can only benfit the whole situation and hopefully next time they'll not antagonise as much.
hth

Krythia · 02/09/2006 21:14

thanks noonar - right back at you!!!!

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Vindaloo · 02/09/2006 22:10

Noonar - you make me feel so normal, its really reassuring when you hear other peoples experiences as it makes you feel so normal and less crappy and hard on yourself.

Greensleeves · 02/09/2006 22:12

Vindaloomum, I'm sorry you had such a hard time on your thread about your dd - it got out of control I'm afraid. .

I have shouted at my boys a couple of times lately, when they didn't deserve it, just because I was overstressed and I lost it. I am not a disciplinarian type and I don't approve of screaming at children - but I have seen red a few times. I hate it, but it happens. .

Vindaloo · 02/09/2006 22:13

not sure i explained myself properly (had a very long and tiring day with DD 2.6!!) what i meant to say is that i have done the same as you (but havent always been in another room) the guilt really grinds you down to the point you are more stressed out.

Vindaloo · 02/09/2006 22:20

Cheers Greensleeves. Yeah I was really taken aback by the other thread I started!! I decided not to worry too much about what was written othwerwise it would have made me really confused and even more depressed.

generally I have been feeling more chilled out and you are so right, any shouting that happens is usually all about you being tired/stressed etc. (although i didnt do well today either!!) Do you know what makes me feel guilty is how your child gets over what happens and gets on with things but me the adult can be in a mood for ages afterwards - its ridiclulous!!

multitasker · 02/09/2006 22:22

Sooooo glad I am not the only fishwife out there. I think most of us are very coy about how spectactularly we dan loose it at times. I do explain myself afterwards but unfortunately dd1 now shouts at her siblings. What they see they will probably at some stage copy. Oh God now I'm depressed.

Stiglet · 03/09/2006 21:56

omg all I can say is thank you so much for this thread, so nice not to be alone in having virtual breakdowns on a weekly basis LOL

EmmyLou · 03/09/2006 22:11

Yes - agree with stiglet. I lost it big time tonight (dh working abroad, 3 dds and dog to walk). Luckily, when dd3 accidently spilt hot tea over me and the stair carpet while pratting about waving her special blanket, dd1 (11) was on hand to comfort her after my fuseblown rant. So, can feel doubly guilty for YELLING at 3 yr old and forcing 11 yr old into comfort/parenting role while I rant in kitchen and generally thow all my toys out of my metaphorical pram and stamp on them too. I think dd2 just legged it to her room.

Was still feeling grumpy when reading bedtime stories to dd3, but then she chose one of my favourites so it was all alright after that. How bloody mature am I?

Vindaloo · 03/09/2006 22:24

emmylou i am just the same, i should be ashamed of myself because i am the one still in a mood over something DD did/or not do yet she gets over it imediately!!

3andnomore · 04/09/2006 11:38

Oh, am so glad others get to that point too...and I agree it makes you feel like the worst mum....but like others said, as long as we apologize afterwards and no actual harm is done...we are only human!

princessmel · 04/09/2006 11:52

You are def not alone.
All of my friends tell me about how they've gone loopy and then felt terrible and guilty afterwoods.
I feel like I'm going to go mad too sometimes. If ds is having one of his 45 min strop/whinge/tantrums I usually ring dh and just talk to him about nothing in particular just to keep me sane.
I feel sorry for dd as she has to listen to ds crying or screaming and me speaking sternly to him with a cross face. She must be a bit scared. As ds was the first he never had to listen to any cross telling off or tantrums as a baby.

MrsFio · 04/09/2006 11:52

I have never found the plot

snoopy2 · 09/09/2006 23:06

thank god for this page. I lost it today and last week and have been beating myself up all evening.

idratherbeincognito · 09/09/2006 23:22

I've also been right there with you, complete with the self loathing and remorse afterwards

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