help with dd please!

[mad4girls]

hi im fairly new to site so please dont be cross if this is in the wrong place but here is my dilema

i am 90%sure dd2 age4 has adhd have done several online symptom tests whilst consulting with a friend over answers sees dd on a weekly basis in diffetent situations and wanted a 2nd opinion on answers just to make sure i wasnt exagerating answers iyswim and they all confirm that she has a definate issue with her attention and behaviour.

was just wondring how do go about getting her diagnosed etc as my health visitor has been unhelpful and said that her behaviour was just attenton seeking and i had caused it

a few of my friends are nursery nurses and nannies etc and have said they are concerned about her behaviour

so how do i go about geting diagnosed

any advice gratefully appreciated

thanx guys

my daughter is diagnosed with adhd. We got the help we needed from school but eventually. To start with we were told she was immature, had dyslexia other things that didn't seem quite credible to us. when she was in yr two her teacher told me she was really worried about her. School told us to see a doctor - we were given the diagnostic forms for school and for oureselves and a diagnosis was made. DD has adhd relatively badly and fairly quickly our doctor told us it was more than she could manage and refered us to a psychiatrist. I think she was about 8 when diagnosed.

I may be wrong but i get the feeling they are often reluctant to diagnose before about 7 or so. Hope this helps. Please ask any questions

ok thanx for that mrsA at least i can be prepared for a waiti love a good challenge anyway so if i have to get them to listen i will thanx though

would also like to say don't be put off by the health visitor - I knew something was up with my dd1 - when she was 4 and in reception I asked if she was on the special needs register - I had absolutely no idea it could be adhd - and was fairly reluctant to get the diagnosis initially. Her yr 1 teacher spent the entire year telling me she was immature and terribly young, fobbing me off.

thats encouraging i was begginging to think the health visitor was rtight that it was my fault she was behvaing like this

its just so hard when you cant go to friends houses anymore because she breaks their toys and hurts the older siblings 3 yrs older than herself its so embarassing so we dont got out which makes it worse because she doesnt know how to act when she is with other kids

just hurts when everyone in her nuresery class gets invited to parties except her coz shes considerd the naughty one iyswim

we read a fantastic book called dreamers dicoverers and dynamos (formerly called the edison trait) - if you stick it in google it coes up on Amazon.
A friend was reading it and told me she had read a book with my dd in. When we first read the descriptive dtuff my dh and I couldn't believe how much it seemed to describe dd1. It really helped us. I used to be very wound up about her behaviour - at one point I was close tears almost everyday at school pick up seemingly innocuous(sp) comments drove me mad - she is 10 now and I can see how some of the irritating stuff that other people might comment on is really just part of who she is and I can smile and feel genuinely ok about it. She is soo much more than the imediately obvious symptoms.

are you mad for girls ...or do you have 4 mad girls?

i have 2 girls but would like another how about you mrsA

two of each dd1 10, ds1 8, ds2 4 and dd2 15 months

thats nice did you like the gap between oldest 2 and youngest

ds1 was a REALLY whingey baby and dd1 was always very high maintenance - from the start she was very wakeful, highly inquisative etc. the combination of the two of them in the first year nearly killed me!!! we had always wanted three but it took a long time to be ready. number four was the result of a drunken night with no contraception
I like the four yr gap - we call them 'the littles' and 'the bigs'

i would love to have that always wanted 5 dont think i will though

I wont be!
getting out to school with the the four of them (and the adhd) is definately as much as I can manage

thanx for the info mrsA will keep you informed going to get an early night as feeling a little down thanx for keeping me going to night greatly appreciated chat again soon

night night

I don't like tagging a child with a 'disease' unless it really is one. Do you think there is anything external you could do to help her? How's her diet? Even a small ammount of refined sugar or food colourings etc can be enough to upset some kids. Is she getting enough b vitamins? They are necessary for the correct functioning of the brain. A lot of additives leech vitamins and minerals from the body so a good pure diet is essential.
Also computors and tv can over stimulate young children so maybe see what happens if you keep her away from them??
Fish oils would help her enormously too. or flax seed oil, anything with omega 3,6 and 9 oils. These help the brain also.
Calming foods are slow release carbohydrates such as brown rice, potatoes, bananas, pulses. Perhaps make sure she has more of these??
Hope this helps. My nephew was like a crazed lunatic until his diet was changed. He's now top of his class!

thanx manuka i will definately look in to it

i have cut oput many things in the last 12 months in an attempt to pin point any triggers for here behaviour but i have to say i havent noticed much of a difference at all were very big on fruit as my children love it especailly bananas, and mot of the cooked meals we have contain rice or pasta as there my favourite foods

have tried her on the fish oils for about 4 months but seems to have little or no effect

they dont have a lot of sweets but i do notice she is very aggitated and gets very frustrated when she has had certain sweets or ice cream

so there are a few things i have to be wary of as she has a few allergies and ecema too

thanx for the advice