Ungrateful DD8 punishment?

[Lunawolf]

DD8 had her friend to stay over last night. I went to the shops yesterday morning and got them something nice for tea/pudding. Also go sweets/crisps/other crap etc. Oh and face masks and a film for last night. Spent the rest of the afternoon sorting out the house so DD's friend didn't think we lived in the tip
Raining today so (thinking DD would be made up) offered to take them the cinema at 12 to see new Disney film. That cost me £30 plus a bit more on drinks.

On way back from cinema, DD got in a huge sulk because we weren't going anywhere else! This then put friend in a sulk, who then started to suggest equally expensive places to visit on way home. DD made me feel like a total stingy cow for saying no.

I'm fuming with her!! I'm on leave from work this week and I've given up 2days and a lot of money and I don't even get a "Thank you".

How do I punish her for this, or at least get my point across?!

I would leave it for today and talk about it tomorrow. I'm not sure a punishment is the right approach but more a discussion about what her expectations were. Is she normally like this or was it having a friend to stay that over excited her?

I wouldn't punish either but there would be a very stern talk on the morrow and no more sleepovers for a bit.

Bear in mind that small children have very little idea of what things cost (unless you teach them). Next time give her a budget for the sleep over and get her to pay for Popcorn or face masks or something from her pocket money.

Sympathies though - I have had similar with mine and you really do wonder why you bother sometimes.

If she's 8 yo, she's needs to start learning about the value of money. I agree that a punishment isn't in order, just some very stern words. We are fortunate enough to be comfortably off, but I try to get my children to see that days out cost money - it can harder to see that, as you don't have something material in your hand for it.

You'll be doing her a favour in the long run - money is becoming an abstract concept to a lot of children, as we pay with plastic/shop online more and more. I like BarbarianMum's idea of giving her a budget next time, and helping her work out what she can afford within that.

I agree that a formal punishment probably not warranted, but I would certainly have chat once friend gone. I have had this with DS, and actually found that as part of the discussion about costs, attitude etc, pointing out that his attitude had upset me and spoilt me day was punishment enough. I have also pointed out before that bad manners means that sleepovers (wake overs, surely) and treats are unlikely to recur.
Good luck