DSD lives with us and we share her parenting 50/50. I am 16 weeks pregnant.
How do you manage time? Especially with more than one?
She goes to her Mum's family every other weekend and the weekend she is with us we have dps older two as well, so that time is about family time and dp having quality time with the older ones, not about doing essentials.
Monday night is always about doing homework, and that takes a long time due to learning disabilities, we try and do some at the weekend but it's hard as she gets distracted by the older ones. She doesn't get home until 6 on a Tuesday, and 6.30 on a Wednesday due to after school club and on a normal day she isn't home until between 4.30 and 5 as we don't have a car and we don't live very close to the school. On a friday either we're welcoming the older ones or she's at her Mums.
She showers every other day and is very slow at this and gets distracted very easily, it can take her an hour to get ready for and have a shower including drying her hair afterwards etc. She is also slow at eating do dinner takes a while. She goes to bed at 8.
We really struggle to fit in essentials like tidying her room, reading her school books, and even her shower sometimes.
I feel like we are constantly nagging her, reminding her to stay focused and asking her to do things. Fitting in fun things outside of the weekend is hard and I feel bad about it.
What can we do? Is this just how it is? I've tried rotas and making sure she has her shower while I'm doing something like cooking etc to maximise time but I still find we get to 7.45 and we haven't done the fun thing I'd hoped to do and she has to get ready for bed :/
I can't speed her up any other way than nagging, it's to do with her learning disabilities, she gets distracted and is slow even when doing something she enjoys.
Any tips?