Someone cheer me up please with stories of successful 5+ years age gaps!

[Metalhead]

I've got DD who is 4 in June and we've been ttc #2 for almost a year. Had a mmc in February, and just got another BFN this morning, and with every month that passes I worry that by the time I might eventually be able to give her a sibling the age gap will be so big they'll grow up leading completely separate lives.

Does anyone have any encouraging stories of big age gaps, whether it be among DC or with your own siblings? Even if they don't play much together as children, is it still possible they'll be close later on in life? I'm just feeling really down today so would be nice to hear big gaps aren't all that bad...

It's great!
dont ask my sister the same q though ;)

Mine are 16, 14 and 8. I have loved having a "little" one as they got older :) He's like an only child sometimes which is lovely but then I have built in babysitters too. Only kidding (ish). They are there for cuddles and advice and little one relishes being by far the youngest and looks to them like adults really.

I dont regret a single thing, honestly, I wouldnt have had him any closer at all, the thought of three close in age scared the pants off me - I knew I wanted one more, but I definitely wanted to wait until the others were in school.

My brother is 6 years younger and my best friend. We always got on well as I was mature enough to cope with his undiagnosed adhd

It's fine!!!

Seven years between my god daughters. Agree with a pp we could do things with them split up as they had different interests, but also the older was motherly towards the younger without seeming jealous she was getting attention.

OP. I finished up with the bigger age gap than I would have liked between my DDs and was quite depressed and anxious whilst trying to conceive DC2 (two MCs and years of nothing happening). But there are lots of advantages of a bigger gap; I have been able to really enjoy each DD separately and with DD2 have had the time to look forward to each stage. The years have flown by anyway; they would have been over in a flash had DD2 come along when she was planned. They are very close and look after each other. There are no guarantees that 2 siblings 9 months apart will get on!

My lovely big brother is 7 years older than me. I am sure having an annoying little sister during his teens wasn't always a lot of fun for him, but it was fine for me :). Now, the gap has narrowed (he looks younger than me grrr) and we have children similar ages.

When I was at the stage you are, I obsessed and worried about how a big age gap (or in fact not having a second child) would be a problem. With hindsight I wish I had just counted my blessings and enjoyed my wonderful DD. Good luck OP .

I'm due my second ds in September when my DS turns five. I chose the age gap purposefully as I thought being a bit older he will understand what is happening more, plus, I will have time with the baby at home alone when he is at school. DS is very happy about having a little brother soon and already kisses and strokes the bump. We have bunk beds in the room for when our little one is older and DS makes the bed straight for his brother every day. So sweet. :)

I have a 13 year old ds and a 18 year old dd. They have always been very good friends. We are really only now hitting the first downside in that dd is going away to University in September, and ds is starting to be very upset at the prospect. Not sure how we're going to deal with that one........

Wise words Googlella! I will try and stop worrying about the age gap and just hope that I will get my sticky bean soon. Thank you for everyone's well wishes.

There's 5 years between my dsis and I, I've pretty much worshipped her my whole life. We got on well as children in as much as we shared a bedroom and so had to, lol, we still fought though, I can tell you some stories, lol. The biggest problem came more when she went to uni at 18, I was still only 13 and I was lonely without her. She would see others at uni with young siblings visiting and she'd miss me too, as I was too young to go visit her.

When I went to uni she came and stayed with me for a couple of weeks (I went to uni somewhere hot and abroad) and we became friends again, we spent time getting to know each other as adults. We don't see each other much as we live in different parts of the country but I'd say we are still close, I still worship her. People can see it plain as day and I'm 47, I can't help it, she's fab! Lol

DSis and I have a 10 year age gap (she's the older one) and we're very close and get on really well. I helped out a lot when she had her babies when I was in my late teens/early twenties and now her "babies" are teenagers she's helping me out with 5 month old DS-the age gap is actually quite useful and nicealthough I joke about her needing a new hip and she jokes about having wiped my arse!

I am 11mths younger than my brother, and 6yrs older than my sister. We are all v close, but I am closer to my sister I would say (although we did argue a bit as kids...). It all works out in the end.
Good luck!