Anyone else new to coping with two? Fancy a thread to give virtual support?

[Misty9]

I've got ds, 2.8, and dd, 4 weeks. Today was my first day going solo with dh back at work albeit upstairs as he works from home . We survived, largely thanks to the baby sleeping most of it! What do I do when she's awake more?!
Ds will have nursery 1.5 days, so I will get some breathing space hopefully. Only a couple of tantrums today mine

Anyone else adjusting to two??

Me! DD is 2 1/2 and baby DS is 11 weeks.

I've been thrown in deep end to just get on with it alone from day 2 as hubs works a lot. Getting out of the house still seems to take an awful lot of effort and packing!

I an struggling with a) lack of sleep and b) worrying/feeling guilty about my eldest - am I being too grumpy/is she happy/ does she know shes still my baby?! (Hormonal sobs!)

Hi Misty, I recognise you from my 'when does it get easier with 2' thread!

I've got 2.7 yeas old DD and 6 week old DS. Struggling to keep them both happy, particularly when trying to feed DS. I'm also grieving my old life a bit - I don't regret having DS, but I am missing the days with just me and DD. It was so easy!

15 months between mine.
Easiest thing was to not worry about baby so much and concentrate on what eldest needed. Baby just went in sling, and bf as and when needed. Took out to change/ bath/ little floor time then back in sling. Meant I could just pop eldest in single pram as before, take him to music class/ library/ park, play games and play dough etc and baby was happy and safe.
Ds2 stayed in sling like this for a good 6-9months :)!

Also took ds1 out every am and pm for walk somewhere. If going to say library I would get him to walk next to pram on way, and in pram on way home. It meant he was tired every nap and bed time so settled quickly. Also meant by the time ds2 needed pram sometimes ds1 was used to walking/ could use buggy board, so saved buying a double pram

They are now happy 3 and 4 year olds

I've got an almost 4 week old DD, snuggled up on my chest & a 4.5 DS who is currently being entertained by the grandparents!

DS is at nursery 2 and a half days a week, so it does give me some breathing space although very frustrating that there is another fortnight of school holidays coming up

DS is old enough to realise that I can't do everything straight away, and we've only had a couple of meltdowns. I'm Ebf so not really been out for longer than a few hours as I'm not overly confident on feeding out of the house.

DP was back at work 2 weeks ago, so we are getting into some kind of routine, my parents are helping me out a lot, so goodness knows what I'd be like if they weren't local/available to help

As for sleep, we're getting there!

Watching with interest - 31 weeks pregnant with dc2!

Hi all. finding I'm with you on the eternal guilt: am I giving eldest enough attention? Am I expecting too much from him? Etc :)

Had first proper ignore the baby while dealing with toddler episode. Wasn't too heart rending and I knew the baby would be easiest to settle!

We've started to get a bit of acting out towards the baby. Ds tries to pull her hair (she's got quite a bit) and screams near her. He also isn't liking it when my attention is on her though never seemed to mind being ignored when I was doing chores before

Anyone else just totally lacking in patience for normal toddler behaviour? Oh, and sling is great but unfortunately my back is a bit knackered and can't wear her for long. So our lovely oyster max double is a godsend.

I thought I'd return to this thread to say aarghh! My toddler is a bit under the weather with a temperature and I am going crazy! He won't stop whinge/crying and is throwing a tantrum at everything. Thankfully its daddy's day off today else I think I may have locked ds outside! Also luckily the baby is having a decent napping day. She is however cluster feeding in the evenings at the moment. It was 3 hours solid feeding last night, so I just don't get a break.

I pray it gets easier or I get more immune to screaming . Poor dh is now doing early bedtime after an almighty screaming tantrum over eating dinner. I think we'll have earned our takeaway!