2 yr old birthday help

[MummyNellie123]

Hi I am in a dilemma about my sons pending 3rd bday party.

Thing is DH and I married fairly young (22) and were the first in our families to have kids (so no cousins). Our close friends are just getting married now, so all in all we haven't got a network of friends who have children.

I signed up to do NCT classes as soon as I found out I was pregnant, (a lady at work made many of her friends this way and they all still meet up five years later)...but within weeks of NCT starting, DS stopped moving and I found out I was lucky enough to have pre eclampsia and GD- they delivered him at 27+2.

He was sick for so long and was in and out of hosp and then i went back to work so missed out on all the mummy and baby classes.

I met a few mothers at Bliss but their babies were ill and we lost touch soon after our children were discharged.

Cut a long story short.....my DS is now going to be 3 and at nursery, he doesn't seem to have many friends- the staff say kids his age don't really make relationships, he is usually playing alone.

I will love to have a party for him and he loves Toy Story but I am so scared I will invite people from nursery (do i invite all 30 kids or 'select' 5??) and no one will turn up and scar him (and me) for life :(

any advice or help will be soooooooooo appreciated

Decide on a venue, this will help you decide big or small, put an RSVP date on the invites (I haven't done this and like you I'm panicking no one will come and DD scarred for life!) children do make relationships my DD has a special friend at nursery and has had since being about 2. Hope you have a nice time whatever you decide to do.

it will be at home for sure....and I wouldn't want more than 5 - 10 kids

but how does it work when ur child doesn't have friends?

do you choose 5 kids at random?

I know my DS wont remember this and I do feel bad for him.....I just want him to have a lovely bday party, I feel so guilty :(

Talk to nursery again, your DS must have a key worker, get this person involved to look at who he is most friendly with, sits with for dinner etc and go from there.

We always have the same number of children to a birthday party as the age of the child, so for a 3 year old, we'd invite 3 children. At that age, though, it was generally the children of our friends, rather than the child's own friends, IYSWIM.

Could you just have grandparents, aunts/uncles etc? DS won't mind if there are no other children.

My son is 3 next week. Hes a nursery 4 days a week- i Dont know any of the mums of the other children , only to say hello too. Im an older mum (44) and alk of my friends kids are much older. I would love to have a party but am not taking the risk that no one from nursery turns up! Im just taking cake into nursery. Ive noticed so far this year that there has been 1 party at nursery which we Couldnt go to Other people have just taken cake and party bags into nursery. We are just taking our son to peppa pig world . I figure once Hes at school we will have years of having to plan parties!

No need to feel guilty. You are planning a lovely party. For my DDs 3rd birthday we asked nursery to give us 10 names of children she played with. Having been to a few parties now that seems to be pretty normal so I expect nursery is used to it. We were also told DD prefers to play on her own but having spoken to other parents they say their DC talk about her. Try not to worry (easy to say I know)

I think it depends on what your Ds likes. My older Ds loves a big group of friends. My younger Ds hates big groups. His favourite birthday has been just family.
I think a small group is better. He is so long and there will be lots of bigger birthdays to come.
He will have just as nice a birthday if he goes for a day out with you and his dad and it's more relaxing for you. Trip to the zoo or seaside.