Don't like my 9mo

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Feel terrible but I really don't like my 9mo anymore. He's a whinger and when he starts, all I want is for him to shut up. Crying I can deal with - he's hungry, tired, wet etc. But the constant whining just makes me hate him. Nothing is ever quite right and I spend my entire day doing the 'stop DS whining' dash from one thing to another. I seriously wish I'd never had him.

Tell me it gets better??

I am at a loss why this age is considered the golden age of babydom.

My dd's whinging, clambering, refusal to be more than a metre away from me is so so draining. My house is bordering on unhygienically dirty. Seemingly I have succumbed to every bad habit going, so I co-sleep, still bf through the night, feed solids by chasing her around the living room and let ger nap on me.
You're not alone. it's so
Is there no one to have the baby for a few hours every now and again? I find the occasional bout of pining for her helps.

I sometimes think every child has an age they are rubbish at. My DD was incredibly whingey at 5 months but thank goodness she got through it.

Is he mobile yet? If not, but he's just on the verge, that may be making him very frustrated. Same applies if he is nearly able to do something else such as hand eye coordination. Teething is another possible reason - is he chewing/dribbling?

These are the usual reasons for whinginess and yes they do pass...

My DS was wonderful at 9 months for all of five minutes....then went straight back to his usual whining / crying / screaming. Like you, I spend all my time trying to stop the next whinge, but given for the last month it is literally ALL he does, I've given up. He also has a bad case of separation anxiety and has started waking up too frequently for my liking! I keep telling myself 'once he's walking' or 'once he's a year old'....but I'm not sure if I'm not just kidding myself as I've been doing the 'when he's doing x,y,z' forever with him and yes, the ear-shattering screaming stage all day has passed so for that I'm grateful, but we've swapped it for constant whining.

I've got a fair amount of tolerance for him but DH really struggles with him and I can see why. There have been times when I feel like bunging him in his cot and shutting the door. At these times I usually stick the tv on and distract him with Mr Tumble. Right now he spends his whole day crawling up to me whining pulling up my leg, and wailing 'maaaaama' .....

It gets better! I didnt really enjoy the baby days all that much. toddlers are ace! x

It gets better! I didnt really enjoy the baby days all that much. toddlers are ace! hang in there x

My DS was a whinger at 8-9 months but only with me!!! Made me feel worse. With anyone else he was a dream. As soon as I appeared (quite literally walking through the door) he would stop whatever nice, quiet thing he was doing and crawl whining and whinging to me. I took it to mean that he just adored me so much he couldn't be apart from me for a second

So, so hard though - especially when other people make comments like "Well he was absolutely fine with me, it must be you"

BUT he is now 11 months and so much better because he can cruise and is starting to discover the endless fascination of putting things inside other things - a game that keeps him occupied for a good 20 mins or so.

I do admit though - I'm dreading the toddler years because I had such short patience just with his whinging - how am I going to cope with the meltdowns!!?

Do you get out every day?

You sound under pressure. Have you spoken to your doctor? All children go through this phase at one time or another so I wouldn't worry there. You need to speak to someone who can give you practical advice re coping etc so you feel more in control.

Oh god, I'm not alone! I've had a terrible day today, I've just had enough of my 10month old daughter.
I actually shouted at her, really shouted. She cried so hard my heart broke.
I feel like the worst mother ever and that I do not deserve such a bright, beautiful and 'spirited' little girl.
She's eyed me with much suspicion this afternoon, but given kisses when asked.
Her sleep is so messed up so we're both exhausted which doesn't help.
I halfheartedly tell myself that it will pass, but right now even five minutes of whining feels like an eternity.