My DS is 18 months old, quite tall but only just outgrown size 12-18 month old clothing, my friend has a DD who is 4.5, tall and strong framed for age. (I struggle to lift her).
A few times the DD has been brought around to my house by her Mum after nursery and plays with my DD, actually won't leave him alone and is very boisterous! am I being out of order to not want my DS to be squashed by older child trying to lie on him, to say something when older child is kneeling on his hand (full weight) to wrestle a toy away? Both of the examples I was worried that my child would get hurt. Am I am being too precious given the age difference?
Also the Mum has told her DD not to do something as it will hurt my DS, the DD just carried on, nothing was done by the Mum. This has happened three times and involves furniture, in one case the DD actually moved the danger closer to my DS and the other time just left the danger where is was ignoring her Mum.
It came to ahead when the DD whined about something and the Mum said that it was nothing as bad as what happens at nursery and she should get over it. I know that this was directed at me rather than the child. Surely In a nursery environment these children would be in separate groups and if not (i dont know a lot about nurserys) I would bloody well hope that a 4.5 year old wouldn't be allowed to be rough with an eighteen month old.
What can I do? I genuinely now on three occasions have worried that my child is going to get hurt, I can't avoid (nor want to) these friends. I find myself on edge the whole time we are around the DD.