frustration

[suganya]

i m getting frustrated with my 1 and half year old boy because of his violent attitude. he throws things and hit his peers and most commonly doesnt allow me to cook or do anything. he wants me to hold him and do household chores. he s very interested in kitchen and i m worried about this thing because he wants to cook along with me like wants to handle the ladle near the gas stove and if i stop him,he starts crying loud that i cant handle him... i dont know how to handle him and make him quiet... if he wants something he wants it immedietly otherwise starts crying... i get angry and frustrated.. how to tackle this situation.. Please help me on this

Firstly he's only one and a half

He's a baby he doesn't understand. If he is hitting others and throwing things just tell him no. Be firm but don't tell him off because he won't understand. I think a lot of people make the mistake of letting their dc "hit" them and laughing about it. The dc then think this is a game and they don't understand that although it doesn't hurt you an adult it would hurt another child.

Throwing can also be part of the trajectory schema which might be interesting for you to look up if you don't know much about schemas

This does tend to be an age where babies become a bit more clingy for their main carers.

It is not safe at all to hold your baby near the stove, and certainly not safe to let him touch things you are cooking with

If my dd (13 months) is not content playing in the other room when I am trying to cook I pop her in her high chair in the kitchen with a book, toys or a drink. This way she can see me but I know she is safe.

However this doesn't always work.

You don't have to pick your dc up everytime he cries for you. As long as he is safe and his needs are met I would continue to do things you need to do.