I've given in to a dummy :(

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dd is 5 weeks olds tomorrow. She seems to get a lot of comfort out of sucking on her bottle but not drawing any milk out. anyway I gave in to buying a dummy. really have always been against them but thought she needs to be happy and content. We only started her on it yesterday but im wondering whether it's normal for her not to hold it in her mouth properly to start with? it falls out easily and she has a mild tongue tie so I'm wondering if that's why?

Sounds daft but it may be the shape if the teat, I would get a selection and see which she gets on with best.

However my dd tends to put everything but the teat in her mouth unless she us tired

I felt awful when I gave my DD a dummy (at 4 months-refused it before then) but she was such a distressed, angry little baby and it gives her a great deal of comfort so try not to feel bad. Plus we had sooooo much screaming in the first three months that we need a break! Try to only use for naps though

There's going to be plenty of more important stuff to sweat over! I gave in and gave my eldest a dummy at 7 months, despite hating them too (other two refused to take one). It only ever stayed in the bed so I learnt to live with it; my issue is when a dummy is stuck in a toddler's mouth like a plug, preventing the child talking and interacting. As long as use is managed I no longer feel it's the end of the world.

If it gives your LO some comfort then don't feel guilty. The early days are hard enough.

DD (now 5) was a dummy-lover. She had it for naps and bed time from about six weeks old till about 2.5yo. It made all our lives easier as she was much more settled. She was also tongue-tied. After about 18 months it didn't leave the house as I too cannot stand seeing older toddlers with a plug-in.

DS (now 3) was a dummy refuser. He would suck a finger.

Don't feel bad about it. For anything like this I comfort myself with the thought that they are unlikely to still need it when they are 18.

DD1 gave up her dummy at 3. This was when the bribery of stickers worked.

DD2 is 19 months and would have her dummy in permanently if she could. It meant to be for sleeping or tears only but she has an amazing ability to hunt one out at home. I do not allow talking with a dummy and at nursery she happily puts it away after her nap.

Is it too big? My baby loved the little Mam ones. I was also anti dummy but gave in at around 5 weeks. It really helped him settle when nothing else worked. I just stopped giving it to him at 4-5 months and he didn't seem to miss it. If you leave it any longer it's hard to take it away again IMO.

My twins both had dummies from a few days old in the NICU. I weaned them off them by 20 weeks and it wasn't nearly as hard as I thought it would be. I used them in their cots for sleep only.

please don't worry about this - they are called pacifiers for a reason. Mine had them til they were about 2.5, then the dummy fairy came

I don't see what the problem with having a dummy is anyway? Can someone enlighten me? My daughter has used the funny shaped ones since being a couple of weeks old. She hardly uses it now unless she's super tired or ill (2 years old) but I haven't seen it being a problem for her...?

Dd is six weeks and has the MAM 0-2 month size ones, she seems to be able to keep them in for much longer than the Avent ones we tried her with first. Please don't feel bad about using one, it won't still be in her mouth when she's 16!

Yeah I suppose she won't have it forever it's just dh and I have always been so against them.

We've tried her with a different shape one but she can't seem to keep it in it's designed for 0 - whatever age it is until the next size up