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Won't even sit on potty!

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flowerfairy · 26/08/2006 13:27

Am I wasting my time even continuing past day 1. Ds won't sit on the potty or toilet seat, he looks very uncomfortable. He isn't the smallest child but nor do I think he has a particularly large bottom. He will perch for a minute after an accident. Please advise. dh is out looking for a bigger potty as we speak.

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foxtrot · 26/08/2006 15:49

Best potty for boys IMHO can be found in Asda for about £1. I have bought several to date as friends see them and beg to take them home! They are oval shaped rather than round and have a nice high 'splashguard' to keep little willies tucked in safely.

Olihan · 26/08/2006 15:55

How old is he? Has he had much access to the potty before today?

When I first bought my ds's potty he refused to go near it so I just left it around the place and he got used to sitting on it fully clothed while he played/watched telly etc. I think he felt a bit funny about having a big hole under his bare bottom!! By the time I tackled actual training with him he was fine. He also preferred the chair style potties in the early days of training, then a smaller potty and now, 2 months later he just uses the loo seat.

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flowerfairy · 26/08/2006 22:05

Sorry only just got round to reading your messages. DS is 2.5yo, i have had a potty and loo seat around for some months now, mostly upstairs, and we have had periods where he has sat on clothed, not clothed, but only ever on his own terms, very rarely when asked.

Dh arrived home with chair type potty which seems to have more room for fitting bottom and tail in. Huzzah we had 1 wee in potty this evening. Will try for a few days to see if his attitude towards potty improves or not i think. Unless anyone has any other suggestions/advice

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sweetkitty · 26/08/2006 22:14

DD1 wouldn't sit on her potty when we first got it then I got her a book from Asda called "Potty training for girls" £1.80 or something. She loves reading the story with me since then she told me "no nappies" like the girl in the story and that she wanted big pants too. You can get the boys version of the book too. Also sit on it yourself fully clothed and I suppose you don't have a dolly you could use, DD1 puts her dollies on the potty now as well.

Olihan · 26/08/2006 22:14

Bribery? A sticker/ chocolate button for every wee he does on the potty? It's not everyone's idea of a good method but if it gets him on the potty it might just be worth it!!

sleepysooz · 26/08/2006 22:15

He might be more comfortable standing from the start, missing potty out altogether (apart from poos)

My dts the ds stood, gave him a table tennis ball to aim for in loo, he found it amusing, and it practiced his aim, yes! even at a young age! mine were 2.4 when started training. They were nearly dry at night though, so that was a good indication! although I thought that came after potty trained.

Saying that, don't stress, all children are different and don't listen to friends gloating stories! your ds will be ready in his own time.

Good luck!

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flowerfairy · 27/08/2006 10:28

Have resorted to bribery of water play. Just pouring froom wtering can to jug. Thought the pouring sounds would encourage wee. Could this lead to trouble? Still had a wet floor after as well!

But have had quite a long sit twice with no wee. 2 minutes later wet pants and floor. Is this the norm? Have noticed he is squeezing himself before so encouraging trips then. Thanks so far

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sleepysooz · 27/08/2006 12:28

Start with no pants, my ds wouldn't where anything for 2 weeks to start with until he felt confident enough, just the feel of something on if they are not concentrating they think its a nappy and forget!

loopylou0612 · 27/08/2006 17:04

I am following this thread with interest, as my dd is the same. 2.6 and will not sit on the potty. So bought toilet seat and step and she only sits on there so she can wash her hands afterwards (big fan of sloshing water all over the bathroom floor!). You can always guarantee that she will not do anything on the toilet but as soon as she is off, there are accidents all over the place!

Just a slight sidetrack here, but sleepysooz, what to do you do if you take the lo one out? Do you put nappies/pants on or do as someone on another thread suggested and let them go without?

sleepysooz · 27/08/2006 18:01

loopy - We had head lice in feb when my twins did their potty training, so we had to stay in for 2 weeks, but saying that, I never went back once they were in pants, and after the 2 weeks, just went on potty before the school run! or before going out! and if we were going to be out for over an hour then I would take potty with me (can get disposable potties though if not practical for you)

Sorry I havent had any problems whatsoever with all 3 of my children, so I'm not a good example for problems, oh sorry I do remember my ds (10yo now) but I did put pull-ups on him when he was on his holidays (he chose to potty train then)! but we were out for long periods of time then! but he was ok, never even wet them.

All kiddies are so different, they are ready when they are ready, on average around 2.6 when they start to show serious signs of trying, but mine were nearly dry at night, so that was the best indication I personally had that the twins were ready.

Don't worry though, everything else is a nightmare, we are the most disfunctional family on earth, I was just lucky with the potty training!

sleepysooz · 27/08/2006 18:07

Flowerfairy - its still early days, don't be too hard on yourself, have you tried the table tennis ball in the loo trick yet!

I wouldn't have tried any of mine until they had dry nappies for a certain amount of time, its usally the parents/mother-in-law of ours that nag us to potty train, do it in your own time, your child will know when the time is right for them.

I'm glad we did ours in the winter aswell, cause they wern't too busy running around outside, everybody always ssays we'll wait till the nice weather, it doesn't always work like that!

Good luck everyone!

loopylou0612 · 27/08/2006 18:12

Thanks for that, Sleepysoooz. How lucky to not have too many problems!

So the general feeling is to let them go commando for a while, whilst encouraging them to sit on potty/toilet?

We tried a little while ago but decided it wasn't the right time. Have spoken to my new work place and she needs to be training or potty trained, so was wondering about the pull ups point of view. My opinion is that they are a waste of money, too much like nappies and are difficult to pull up/down, so I think we'll go straight into pants.

Going to keep watching though to see what others have to say on the subject!

Sorry to hijack your thread, flowerfairy!

sleepysooz · 27/08/2006 18:19

ds went commando, but dd had pants - both different

vicky15 · 27/08/2006 18:26

My ds 2 yrs 10 mnth old seems frightened of potties and toilets and if I have mananged to sit him on one, he screams and cries so I worry that I will give him a phobia by persevering. How do I get him to like potties or is he just not ready?

sleepysooz · 27/08/2006 18:59

vicky - table tennis ball in loo, ds to aim at it, read down thread may find some more hints of help!

sleepysooz · 27/08/2006 18:59

table tennis ball - sorry

magicfarawaytree · 27/08/2006 20:14

I really recommend the toilet steps that you can get from boots additions catalogue. I'm sure it can be bought from elsewhere. My kids loved it, pottys arent really that comfortable. Mine would sit on say ow, ow. so I go the toilet step. its easy to climb on the toilet as it has two steps, so none of the half climb, half fall then contort to sit on toilet fandango. And whilst they are sat on it there is none to the I nearly fell into the toilet wobbling. They hold on to the handle and tap the feet of the steps on the floor. it was only £10. they have a slightly different one now but the one I have looks like this. have a look at this this

terriefarrell · 28/08/2006 13:14

DD2 was the same, i bought a potty and one of those winnie the pooh toilets with the flush sound thingy and she refused to sit on it. i left it in the living room for about 3 months and kept saying are you going to sit on it and she would just point blank refuse but then all of a sudden, out of the blue, did it herself! She'll be 3 in November and it's only the last month that she's going on it but now she'll even carry the potty insert upstairs and empty it in the toilet. I did do a sticker chart and she was encouraged by this after she saw the first sticker go on it but in the end it was her who made the first move.

She is having problems at nursery though as i leave her with nothing on her bottom half at home so when she goes to nursery (just one morning a week) she does have accidents so i'm trying to use pants now and then advance onto trousers at home!

Terrie X

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flowerfairy · 29/08/2006 16:57

Thanks for the messages, but have given up for present. Ds seemed to be getting too distressed, plus i'm about to start a new job after redundancy and am not feeling a t my strongest. But keep taking potty downstairs and keep talking about what it is for and encouraging sitting either dressed or not.

Thanks for everything i'm sure i will be back for more moral support when the time is right.

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sleepysooz · 29/08/2006 18:48

flowerfairy, it doesn't matter, ds will only be ready when he is ready.

Good luck with new job

cheekypepper · 31/08/2006 20:07

Hi there,
I'm new to mumsnet and am desperate for some advise with regards to potty training my son who is coming up 3 in november. He will sit on the potty but as yet nothing comes out. He waits for his nappy to go back on or he simply wets himself. It got to the stage where he was holding backing on weeing for hours and I worried that he might give himself an infection so I gave up again for a month. We are now trying to ease him gently back into sitting on the potty before he has a bath in the evening, but he still is yet to do anything. We have tried bribry and that doesnt work either.
The thing that is stressing me out now is he is due to start nusery in January and a friend of mine has told me that if hes not trained by then the nusery won't take him and he may lose hisplace!

Please someone give me some advise or at least tell me I'm not alone on this. I really worried that his place at nusery is going to go because they will not accept him in nappies.

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