Don't know where to turn

[tgrayson]

Feel so alone and lost all I want to do is end everything. No one cares doesn't matter how much I scream no one hears. What do I do???

Oh Grayson, what exactly is the matter? What problems are you having? x

Is anyone with you???

Have you tried your gp? I've had lovely conversations with th Samaritans before too.

Take one day at a time, it will get better, k

Can you contact your GP? Is it something in particular that you are struggling with?

Bump!

Having an 11month old who doesn't sleep for anymore than 1hour at a time.

A husband that doesn't help because he works regardless of the fact I work as well as care for ds.

Family and friends answer is stop feeding him. I feed him at 6am and at 7pm in the day. And will only feed at 3am ( this feed I've been trying to cut out, but at this point in the morning I'll do anything to stop the screaming)

The obvious lack of ??

Same old really but it doesn't matter how much I ask hubby to help he doesn't. He has given me one lie in in 11months!! I've had enough, seriously thinking of ending the marriage???

I'm sorry it's so shit for you at the moment.

Does your DH say why he won't help you? If you're both working full time then he's being really unfair with this.

The "stop feeding him" brigade aren't really helping. He's not feeding that much really, although I can see why you would want to get rid of the night feed.

Can you stay with friends/family for a couple of nights and get them to help overnight so you can get some sleep? It might also make the point to your DH that he needs to change his attitude.

Is there any chance at all of you leaving your DH to care for your DS for one night? Book yourself into a hotel, stay with a friend? Your DH may have one bad night, he can do a bottle of water instead of the 3am feed, but you get to reclaim a tiny bit of yourself and recharge enough to carry on caring for your DS.

Then arrange with your DH that one of you has a lay-in every Saturday and the other has a lay-in every Sunday.

It is horrible, but it will eventually change and you will feel better. But you might not be able to forgive your DH and end up resenting him if he can't compromise a little.

Don't do anything else Hun screw the house and your DH take care of yourself and your precious boy!

Can you co sleep? He might sleep for longer stretches when he is not alone?

But I agree with the above contact your GP or HV

Had a long chat with hubby involving tears as usual. He sees what he has been doing is selfish and promises to start making changes.

He has booked a day spa for me to have some much needed r&r and arranged a date night for both if us.

So hopefully things are improving.

As for sd he appears to be fingers crossed, touch wood having a good night. Has been asleep for 4 hours. Seems I just needed to let it out.

Thanks ladies x

I'm so glad that you've talked to your DH about this and he sees your point of view. Don't be afraid to gently remind him about your discussion if you seem to be slipping back into old habits.
Enjoy your spa visit, and I hope tonight is very quiet.