A child is obsessed with my child - tips for my child how to handle

[Quinteszilla]

My son is in Y4. He is a very sensitive and sweet boy, not rough at all.
But there is another child in Y1 who wont leave him alone. He is not friendly, he is chasing my son everywhere, hugs him, pinches him, moons him, tries to pull my sons pants down, wriggles his bum in my sons face. My son tells him to stop and the child response "I can do what I like, there is nothing you can do to stop me". My son has started to hide in the toilet rather than play.

I had a quiet word with the head this morning, not in a complaint kind of way, but I asked if she could go have a word with my son to get to the bottom of what is going on, and so that he felt listened to. We have a very lovely and approachable head. She said there was some sn involved with this child, and he tended to have periods where he was obsessed with a child, and she would have a word.

Now, knowing there is SN involved, as opposed to a child just being naughty and targeting mine, how can I best help my son handle this?

Speak to your child about always trying to play with other peers or another friend so he is supported by them and is less likely to be victimised. Also, ask him to think about an adult who he can identify and trust in the playground and speak over a strategy to help him as situations arise. Maybe a 123 approach... Ignore/walk away, then ask to stop, then seek adult. Step 1 and 2 may happen very quickly but then he can get help knowing he has tried himself first. This will work if his trusted adult knows about the strategy so it's worth speaking to head again. That way the adult can say to this other child - he walked away and he asked you to stop and this reinforces what will happen in future. Hopefully he will eventually get the message and find something else to entertain him! Good luck!

It sounds sensible. But it is not just during play time. But in after school sports too, playing cricket yesterday, and this child kept coming in from a different session (cricket is y3-y6) to target my son. Can I ask the school to speak to the sports staff that they keep the groups more separate?

Oh completely, I just assumed it was during a more unstructured/unsupervised time. I'm surprised that it has gone unnoticed and unchallenged by staff.