5 year old expecting a big birthday party...but we haven't planned a big one

[united4ever]

My son is 5 in less than 2 weeks - my wife and I discussed having a big party a couple of months ago i.e. hiring out a place or paying a play centre to host one. In the end we decided to do what we always have done and invite immediate family over and have cake, present opening, sing happy birthday, ice cream and decorate with balloons and bunting etc etc.

However, this morning my son started listing who he wants to invite to his party and saying he wants lots of people to come. I didn't say much and changed the subject. How to explain to him that he won't be having a party with his classmates like a couple that he went to recently?

We have a small apartment so cannot invite loads of kids. We thought we'd do a big party next year with all his friends. It's a bit late to organise somewhere and invite people if we do change our mind on this.

Thanks

Could you invite say, 4 or 5 friends over for a birthday tea after school? Do a quick pass the parcel, blow up balloons etc but not a full on party?

We've tended to do them in the park, no party bags, invite whoever, lots of cake and sandwiches :)

Oh dear. Parties are a really big deal to 5 year olds! Honestly, they're like currency in reception/year 1. It's one of the top 5 things they talk about.

If you are going to change your mind however (And I would if I were you), they are also very easily pleased at this age. We have the parties at our house so the few that we do invite look like a house full and mine's happy with that, some food, music & games. You could go to the park & take sandwiches...?

I bet he won't care (will barely notice) how many children are invited, but it does seem a shame not to give him a party at all. I'd just have a few kids round and do some party games with tea & cake. Leaving it to the last minute may be an advantage as less people will be available!

Sorry Loopy, x-post.

Thanks Guys, good ideas there - will look into sorting out something in the park.

If you do change your mind (which is up to you of course) you still have time to organise a party. IME parents don't mind receiving invites at short notice (although some may not bring able to attend).