Should I let dd's nursery potty train her?

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My dd has a full time place at nursery. They are willing to potty train her while she is with them, but I somehow feel I am letting her down by not doing it myself. I could take a week off and do it, but would this be a huge waste of my precious annual leave? I am torn between being a parent to dd and saving my holidays for more fun things that we can enjoy together.

Oh, God, let them do it!

you'll be doing it too! I happily let my Mum potty train my DD and it didn't even occur to me that I was letting her down...I provided the 100 pairs of tiny knickers, that was my contribution

Don't feel guilty - I'd say you'd do it in partnership with them anyway, find out their method and stick to it at home

I would agree - like them do it, unless you're desparate too (and you sound as though you're not . You'll still be involved when she's at home in the evenings and after work. Look on it as a 'joint effort' and save your annual leave for fun things.

Hmmmmmm..personally I'd hate the thought of someone else doing it.

Plus the fact that you'd still have to carry on with it in the evenings etc..

and who said you can't do fun things aswell??

I've just trained Ds3 and I bought a fold up potty to take out with us.

Hmmm, spend a week up to your eyes in puddles and poo, or hand that most unpleasant job over to the professionals and go to the park a lot instead...

Thankfully they are willing to do things my way - their usual way is a gradual introduction with pull ups etc - I favour the all or nothing pants at all times Codtastic way. Obv I would be carrying things on in the evenings and at weekends myself.

Let them do it!!

A note of caution though, my friend's little girl potty trained at nursery but couldn't/wouldn't do it at home!? She was great at nursery but point blank refused at home. It took a lot of cajoling to convince her she could do it at home too.

There you go then - joint effort - don't wast your holidays. I'm in the all or nothing camp too, but DS is now 2.5 and I still haven't started

Think I'll wait until he's about 4

I think that the real problem is that I don't like having to work f/t anyway and I feel that a piece of dd's growing up is being taken away from me . Maybe this particular one isn't such a bad thing though

I don't have to decide just yet... dd is definitely ready to try but we are going away for a week next Saturday and I don't want her potty training on long car journeys and holiday days out. We are going to wait until we get back.

Hmm, hate to disillusion you, but you might take a week off and find that your DD is still far from potty trained. DS is at nursery three days a week and is slowly getting the hang of it but still has loads of accidents. The positive thing about potty training at nursery is that your DD will see lots of other children using the potty - this may be enough for her to decide she wants to be a 'big girl' too. However, I think in the early days potty training requires quite alot of paying close attention to children for signs that they want to go, particularly if they are busy doing something more fun than using a potty, and I think you will be better placed to do this at weekends, so I wouldn't worry about not having any input.