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Love bombing

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Fionalikespinklemonade · 27/04/2014 12:54

I have hear of this concept and have had my eyes on the book by Oliver James on amazon for a while but can't justify to spending £ 10.00 for it right now.

Has anyone read the book and tried some of the methods James describes? Would you be able to summarise the key strategies and let mek now if they worked or didn't?

Thank you!

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Fionalikespinklemonade · 27/04/2014 12:55

Apologies for grammar mistakes... Typing on phone.

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Koothrapanties · 27/04/2014 15:20

Bump, I have heard of the term, but I'm not sure about it all. I'd love to know more.

gamerwidow · 27/04/2014 15:23

I haven't read the book but have you tried your local library. They may be able to order a copy in even if they don't have it locally?

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FiscalCliffRocksThisTown · 27/04/2014 15:34

Google it!

Raskova · 27/04/2014 15:35

What is it???

Itsfab · 27/04/2014 15:37

I read your OP and wondered what Jamie Oliver had to do with love bombing?

differentnameforthis · 27/04/2014 15:45

Is this helpful

differentnameforthis · 27/04/2014 15:46

deXavia · 27/04/2014 15:56

I think the key is time - for long complicated reasons DS and I went abroad by ourselves for 5 days leaning DH and DD at home. It was incredible the difference it made for both sets, DH and DS benefited as much as DS and I
Honestly I don't think we've cuddle or had as much contact since he was 2 and his sister was born and he is a cuddling boy so we do hug a lot but not like this. We watched films together, talked and between various other commitments that prompted the trip just mooches about. We covered so much not in a heavy way but because it naturally came up and we we're never interrupted by work or little sisters! (I think this was the biggest difference)
I didn't let him set the rules, it wasn't deliberate love bombing but with time and just being the two of us life was flexible enough that he got to do a lot more of his choice.
Back home the impact is still there and has really made all of us realize we need to keep it up.

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Fionalikespinklemonade · 27/04/2014 16:15

Thank you for the links different.
Dexavia, I agree spending one on one time without constantly being interrupted by other things or siblings is very good for reconnecting with dc and making them feel seen and heard.

I'll try the local library.

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Millie3030 · 27/04/2014 18:48

Just read the article differentnameforthis put up there and it's very interesting, might get the book myself. I read James Oliver's 'they f**k y up' and it was quite interesting, hopefully this is too. Will get it for my local library. :-)

Stumbelina · 27/04/2014 20:42

I've read a brief article about this and have started to do it with my 4 year old DD. Since DD2 arrived 8 months ago I have not been able to devote anything like the time to DD1 as I used to. She is also in nursery 4 days a week so spends quite a bit of time away from me and just recently her behavior has become very challenging. She is also very clingy, I put it down to moving house and area, having a new baby and starting a new nursery but wasn't sure how to handle it. After looking up love bombing I have tried to start doing this with DD1.

For instance, today DD1 wanted to go crabbing so I duly decked us out in waterproofs and headed off to the seafront with just her. And sure enough her behavior was fantastic. I let her lead the way in what we did, trying to control things as little as possible and also sharing lots of love and hugs along the way. It seems to have really worked out. I'm not sure how long the effect will last but I get the feeling I am on to something. She seemed so much happier and I realized my little girl is craving her mummy. I forget that being 4.5 is still so young.

Another benefit is that I get to feel much better about her too as I get quite stressed with her behavior and even start to dislike being around her. She went to bed happily this evening and I am now looking forward to seeing her tomorrow. In an ideal world I would do something like this everyday (maybe I can in a small way) but will definitely do it every weekend as I can feel the benefit already.

Hope that helps.

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