With 2 delightful but challenging small boys, the discussion about no. 3 was never broached- DH's approach to discussion was to tell me instead of putting the sterilizer safely away for a rainy day, that we may aswell take it to the charity shop. I guess I knew we wouldnt have another, but was absolutely delighted to find myself expecting again. DH's reaction was pure shock, turning to horror to such an extent that he can hardly speak and indeed has buried his head for the last 4 wks, refusing to broach the topic. When forced he finally admitted that he doesnt want another baby,,, the reasons being endless...cant cope with 2, financial, stress, pressure....we have not discussed termination - the mere thought is soul destroying, but as time passes his horror is such that i really believe this will rock our family if we go ahead. My delight has also turned sour watching him panic....and i wonder how you can bring a child into the world wonderign if it will be accepted. I cant even imagine announcing this pregnancy, as he feels its such a devastation. How it happened (accident) is not the issue...i know it takes 2 and there is no blame, my concern is how to face the future, with or without this baby. If anyone has been in a similar situation, I would be really grateful for some advice.