PANTS!!! PULL UPS!!! POTTIES!!!!!

[joj72]

First child and two neurotic parents trying to do everything perfect!!!!!!
Little boy 2.2 and just started potty training.
He goes fine when he doesn't have anything on, but as soon as he wears anything (pull up or pants), he forgets to go to the potty. He doesn't even let me know that he has peed.
Should I be leaving him with nothing on or should he always wear something?
Are pull ups a bad idea?
Part of me also thinks it is too soon, so should I just put the potty away and bring it out again in a few weeks!!!!
AAARRRGGHHH!!!!!!!!
Sorry so many questions...but read to many books and have so much conflicting advice.
Of course, my mother tells me I was potty trained practically straight out of the womb!!!!
Please help.
Any advice would be gratefully received
JO Neurotic

Pants, not pullups. Pullups won't help with potty training.

I'd say that once he seems happy with nothing on, go to pants - after all it's not much use if he has to go naked everywhere I didn't go with the naked option at all for that reason.

This is what I was thinking.
I don't like disposable nappies anyway, so I would rather not use them at all.
Do you think that maybe he isn't ready yet?

Jo - best advice we had when training ds was from the nursery (who deal with loads of lo's potty training every year) and that was to leave the pants off and just go commando under his trousers. The problem with pants or pull ups is that they feel secure like a nappy and therefore the child just goes because they can. If they have none on then they are more likely to recognise the feeling of the urge to go and then act on it. We left ds commando for 3 weeks until we were sure he had grasped the idea and then put him in pants and never looked back. Would definitely say no to pull ups tho - too much like a nappy and therefore too confusing for a lo imo.

Good luck!

I think 2.2 might be a bit young, although I read somewhere 2.3 was about the earliest you could really try - so perhaps leave it another month.

Definitely no pull ups, waste of money and confuses the child.

First time I've used this sight. How cool is this!!!!
Thanks for tips

My DD at 2.3 was the same. He's doing great. Do pants and not nappies. Try naked at home as much as you can and always take him to the loo before you go out and when you get there which will hopefully minimise accidents. Keep at it.

When he has nothing on and he goes to the loo, he is so chuffed with himself, and I feel he is doing really well. I suppose I am expecting miracles over night.
Especially afer reading said book by she who cannot be named!!!
My biggest concern is that I'm sending him mixed signals.
He can't pull his pants down yet!!!!
Perhaps I am just rushing him.
AAAARRRGGHH!!

Just be relaxed about it, if he continues to do well, great, keep at it. If on the otherhand you get alot of accidents stop and try again in a month or so. We did this for ds from 2yrs 5mths to 2yrs 9mths - we tried 3 times, each time for about 2 weeks or so. The important thing is not to stress - easier said than done I know!

My DD still cant pull her pants down and she is now 2.5. We get some wet pants where she tells me and we cant get to the loo/pants down quick enough but on the whole we've only had 1-2 accidents per week for the last month and she has just all of a sudden become much clearer with her speech which is helping.#

I would say he's doing great. dont worry.

Don't worry about it. He is doing great- better than most boys, I think.
If you think he isn't ready yet, why don't you just leave it and try again in a few month?? I think 2.2 is quite young for a boy to be trained. In fact, if i am honest I don't know of any boys to be trained at 2. My son and his friends were all about 3 when they were potty trained,and I think that is more the norm. I think girls tend to be trained earlier, around 2.
Hope this helps

I have actually put the potty away and I am going to try again in a few weeks. Thanks to everone for the advice. Really good to know that so many other people have the same problems and questions. It can be a confusing, lonely buisness being a mum.
Thanks to all

If he still leaks in pants when you try it again later, try boxer shorts - they are different enough from pants to help them get the message - helped my ds and my friends ds