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I am seriously at my wits end with DD. Advice gratefully received

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FoghornLeghorn · 22/08/2006 09:15

Basically DD is 2.1 years, still sleeps in a cot and still wears nappies.
For the last 6+ weeks I have had a real struggle with her keeping nappies on, as soon as she had done a wee or poo she would take her nappy off, didn't matter where she was, in lounge, in kitchen, in bedroom, in bed, litterally anyway. Obviously the problem in this is when she does it in bed, if DH or I don't notice as soon as she has done it she usually goes onto wee in her cot which then means washing mattress, duvet, pillow etc. Bearing in mind this has been going on for 6+ weeks now and last week it happened twice in one day, I am starting to lose my patience.
I have tried telling her if she wants her nappy of to ask me or daddy, I have tried making deals with her (she thinks deals are great but never sticks to her side), I have tried leaving her nappy off during the day and putting her on the toilet when she needs a wee - However, ultimately, even if she did come out of nappies she would still need to wear them at night time and I just can't get her to keep them on. I brought a pack of pull ups this week to try and confuse her but she still got it off.

Also, with her cot, she has started throwing all of her bedding out, duvet, pillows, toys, sheets, teddies etc and just generally creating at bed time so we have decided maybe it is time to try a bed and maybe this will also distract her from taking nappy off. Got her room ready last night with her new big girls bed, really played up on the fact she was going to be a big girl like her cousins and getting her to go to sleep wasn't as bad as I had imagined but once she woke up at about 11p.m she would not go back in and had an almighty screaming fit. We put a bed guard on the bed so she didn't feel so open and hoped it may have given her the kind of feeling of being in her cot but it didn't work.

I suppose we need advice on the nappies more than the bed as last night was only the first night, although I am absolutely exhausted today. I just don't know what else to try and find myself getting increasingly frustrated with her and I know I shouldn't because she doesn't "know" what she is doing but I just can't get her to stop

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compo · 22/08/2006 09:17

Can you use a vest that does up underneath the nappy so she can't get it off? Or dungarees maybe?

fireflyfairy2 · 22/08/2006 09:21

Does she wear a babygrow/sleepsuit? We put a vest on ds that buttons underneath and his sleep suit has no feet so we put it on backwards so he can't open it and get at his nappy

Jimjams2 · 22/08/2006 09:21

Try and get a footless sleepsuit (you can still get them for this age) and put it on back to front if you think she will undo it the right way round. Or a popper vest over the nappy. Some sort of houdini suit anyway for the bed. Lets face it the day stuff isn't too bad but the bed is bloody annoying. DS1 has wet his bed every day for the past- god knows- 6 months at least probably more. It is tedious beyond belief, completely unecessary washing- so you have my sympathy. We have very good waterproof stuff (he's not little though so I'm not worried about using plastic- but look at cot matress coversand see if you can find a better alternative)

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mmmmchocolate · 22/08/2006 09:21

my friend has this same problem. so will be watching this tread.

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FoghornLeghorn · 22/08/2006 09:28

Thanks I will try the popper vests. I even tried putting her nappy on back to front to confuse her last week but she got it off in a flash.

JimJams you are right, I can handle the day stuff completely, maybe she is telling me she is ready to start toilet training but the night time accidents are just so frustrating.

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Jimjams2 · 22/08/2006 09:28

OMG ds1 just pooed on the floor!!!!! He hasn't done that for years, think he's been reading this thread. Actually think he needs to go back to school so he can stop scheming up naughty things to do. but anyway can say with recent experience that day stuff is easier than night stuff!

mapleleaf · 22/08/2006 12:31

My dd2 is 16 months old and loves to rip off her nappies. What works for us is a Motherease nappy cover. Even if you don't use reusables the cover can go over disposables, and comes with adjustable poppers which will be very difficult for your child to remove. Waitrose stocks them, as do JoJo Maman Bebe. Good luck !!

softmusk · 23/08/2006 12:15

my dd this age as well i found she can get of nappies but not pull ups YET so we use them

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FoghornLeghorn · 23/08/2006 12:17

Well ..............

We tried and succeeded with the popper vest, so whoever made that fantastic suggestion, I thank you

Even i struggled to get the poppers undone so DD stands no chance - we had a whole night last night of no nappy removing escapades

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JenW · 23/08/2006 13:43

This subject came up last night as our ante-natal group got together.
If poppers don't confuse her for long, I'm told insulating tape wrapped around the nappy does the trick. In fact the child concerned now only has to see the tape to believe his nappy can't be removed.

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