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how much freedom to give an 8 year old

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mummyOF4darlings · 09/04/2014 22:46

My 8 year old dd plays out but i make sure she stays on our end of the estate theres a grassy area just round corner i let her on aswell thats about as far as so far let her go, shes started wanting to go off to the shop with her friends ive let her go a couple of times now as some of the girls are a bit older and all seem quite sensible so far no problems but she came to me today and said her and her class mate who lives opposite us are going to the park to meet another class mate, the park in question is about a 10 min walk and they have to cross a busy road.

I told her i dont think shes ready to be going that far yet and not only that theres a lot of older teenagers about in that park causing trouble from tea times onwards, Not only that ive 3 other kids to look after if she didnt return home id have to trail them all out looking for her. So went to talk to the other girls mum who funnily enough didnt know anything about them supposed to be going to the park. So that was the end of that really, until the girl they were meeting turned up on our street she lives a couple streets away from the park so had come a 10/15 min walk on her own and over a busy road, ok she seems very grown up for her age but i think id just feel uncomfortable letting my dd out and about like that. Apparently the girls mum knew where she was and regually allows her out and about. So now have my dd questioning why i am treating her like a baby.

Its 1 thing after another lately with that girl, dont want her rebelling and sneaking off but at same time 8 years old is still so young shes only in year 3!

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Newpencilcase · 09/04/2014 22:55

My DS is 8 and I wouldn't let him go to the park on his own (about the same distance and road).

My main concern is that he's still at a playing age where he could easily hurt himself.

He's allowed to go to the shop by himself which is only about 100 yards away.

I would let him go to a friend's house if Mum knows he's on his way and comes out to meet him. You're not being silly at all. 8 is tiny.

mummyOF4darlings · 09/04/2014 23:01

Thanks for agreeing with me its hard to know when is the right time to let them be independant isnt it. I remember how strict my mum was when i was little and i used to rebell and sneak off i dont want her doing that, pretty sure i was older than 8 aswell

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PopOfTheTops · 09/04/2014 23:03

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toolatetobed · 10/04/2014 00:58

I think you are doing the right thing not letting her go. Quite apart from the other issues, very few 8-year-olds would have the road sense to safely cross a busy road.

mummyOF4darlings · 10/04/2014 17:12

Yes your certainly right to me 8 years old is still quite young but some of the girls especially in dds class dont half look and act older.

Today shes been badgering me again this time about going to the shop with her friend whos same age but there was no older ones going this time, I agreed to let her go its only round the corner but its out of sight was a bit worried was relieved they came back pretty quick with their kinder egg each lol.

Came back in kitchen to make tea and heard on radio a 10 year old girl had been sexually assaulted in a park not that far from us made my blood boil, just thought of that 8 year old girl dd is friends with who is wondering all over :(

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