Neighbours knocking on wall

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I live in a terrace house and one side is next to a family with 5 children, age 5 upwards. My DTS are 2.6yo and sleep in a room next to the bedroom of our neighbours.

On Saturday and Sunday, the boys woke up about 7.00am and played in their cots. However, they do a lot of screeching and laughing. On both mornings, the neighbours banged on the wall after about 5 minutes of the boys playing. This has been going on since the boys were about 16months old and I'm getting fed up of it. It does not help that we do not get on with these people and have nothing to do with them.

Do you think this is acceptable? When their younger 2 were babies, we did not once complain about their noise but now every time our boys make a screech, we feel compelled to make them quieter. I would have thought that they would have been more tolerant considering they have 5. When their 5 get going, it is like living next to a zoo but we put up with it.

Do you think that these people should be more tolerant or are my boys unreasonable to make such noise in the morning, particularly at the weekend?

Last time my neighbour banged on my wall, I got a hammer and banged it back much louder They havent done it since...

Not great advice though sorry!

Personally I think they should be more tolerant.

Children make noise - it's a fact of life.

I'm sure Tinker had a similar problem with her neighbours...I'll see if I can find the thread for you.

My DM said that I should bang the wall back but knowing how thuggish they can be, I want to avoid inflaming the situation.

I just think that it is so unreasonable to expect 2yo not to make a noise!!

im having similar probs at the moment. i live in a block of flats through no choice of my own and the upstairs neighbours always have parties and possibly orgies(theyre always gathereing in the bedroom when having parties)that always start after 11pm. i have phoned the police on them a few times. now we have new neighbours below us with 3 kids. now i know kids will be kids etc and i have a ds (8.5m) myself. but the thing is, he still feeds during the night and i can cope by going back to bed with him when he has his early nap in the morning, about 8.30 for 1 1/2 hours. the new neighbours get up and all i can hear is kids screaming, doors slamming, cupboards slamming, furniture scraping, furniture being kicked, dad shouting at kids, mum shouting at kids etc, hence i now cant catch up on my lost sleep. also nwhen im trying to get ds to sleep the kids seem to always be playing right outside our window and then parents shouting at them, the kids running up and down the stairs and shouting in the stairwells and banging the metal banisters, slamming doors etc. And their dog barks alot. i am at the end of my tether.

we have always tried to be considerate to all our neighbours by keeping tv low etc , well not anymore. if other people cant have respect and consideration for us then we'll play that game too, so this morning after i got woken i put on some very loud dance music and stomped around the flat,(childish i know, and perhaps not the best approach but ive had enough). and in future when DS wakes at 5.30 or 6 i will let him screech etc instead of trying to keep him quiet.

we have block rules that state that you have to be quiet between 10pm and 7am, eg music etc, but people dont always abide by these.

anyway rant over.
have no other advice though, sorry

Oh Vnmum, what a nightmare for you. Like you, we have always been considerate neighbours. The neigbours on the other side said to my DH (before we had the twins) that they never heard us because we were so quiet. However, our other neighbours have always been noisy, they even played music at 6am one Saturday morning when their youngest was still a baby. They seem to think that it is perfectly acceptable for them to make noise but get really annoyed at the noise from our 2yo twins.

We are planning to move in 2 years so we are just keeping our cool and when we do move, it will be to a detached house.

here's Tinkers thread not quite the same but similar - you may get some tips here about what you can do

HTH

i know what you mean by a detached house. we're hopefully moving soon and it may be a terrace or semi but its got to be better than a flat.

Thanks Maddison.

Vnmum, if you do move into an adjoining house, try and get one with decent walls or halls adjoining. In the meantime, good luck!