You'd check with parents if you were going to let kids watch a 12 at a sleepover?

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DD1 (10 nearly 11) is going to a sleepover next week she's been there before, happy with that. However she's now mentioned that her friend says they're going to watch Hunger Games 2 Catching the fire, and I wouldnt be happy about that. I'm getting myself into a tiz now not mentioned anything cos it might not even be true. Just worrying should I mention it or not. Dont want to phone up just to ask, but neither leave it to the day and come across as the big meanie spoiling the evening, which I know I am. I dont like doing that, dd has watched a 12 before but that was with us, but just dont feel happy with her watching the hunger games.

Just venting, hopefully worrying over nothing.

I wouldn't tbh. Dd had a sleepover last night, she's 11 1/2, friend is nearly 11 and friend brought the Twilight set on DVD!
We've all seen Catching Fire and I wouldn't have a problem with that being watched.

Depends on the movie.

I wouldn't.

If I were you I'd mention to the parents how you feel, just so they know before one of the kids sneaks an 18 horror film...

I would always check, but other people aren't like that. It sounds as if the mum has seen the film and feels it's ok for DC of that age. I would look it up on IMDB and see what the parental advisory content is and decide yourself if it's suitable. If you're not happy, tell the mum you'd rather they watched something else.

DS(9) went on a sleepover recently and the mum checked I was happy for him to watch a 12 film. Funnily enough I found out they'd also been playing Halo on the Xbox and she thought that didn't need checking.

Depends if you really don't want her watching it at all (which is fair enough that's your decision) to the point of saying a absolute no. Then i think you should call and find out, it wouldn't be fair to say no on the evening, it wouldn't give the parents/girl time to choose another movie or make different arrangements.
But if you would let her watch it at a push then I would leave it.

I wouldn't guarantee it. A friend was very upset the other day when her 12yo came home from a sleep over having watched two 15 rated films. If there are parents who would do that without asking then there are parents who'd show a 12 to 10yo children without asking.

I checked recently when we had some 11/12 years old visiting and they watched Gravity. I know some people are quite strict with it. All were fine with it.

For hunger games 2, I would definitely check with parents.

Hmm, if she is nearly 11, I wouldn't be too bothered. Is she especially sensitive or something? I don't know much about the Hunger Games - what is it you're worried about exactly?

If it was a 12a at the cinema and I had seen the film I wouldn't think to mention it to a 10 year olds parents -any younger than that I would

The generally see a lot worse on tv
-there can be more sex and violence in soap land!

Mine generally dont see a lot worse cos we dont have a TV
we just watch dvd's and stuff we choose to watch on iplayer.

Hmm yeah.

So yes I think for her the intense scenes, based on the first film and the IDMB guidance, this it what I would be concerned about.

I found the first one pretty intense, but then I rarely watch 15's and yeah dont watch telly, so that's what I'm basing it on.

Thanks for your thoughts, all depends on individual I know.

Depends on the parents and the film. If I was planning to show a bunch of 11 year old boys The Avengers then I know a lot of parents would look at me if I even bothered to check. I'd probably ask about The Hunger Games films because they're quite full on but I'm sure loads of parents wouldn't. I think if you think your DD would be upset by it then you need to have a word, but unfortunately be prepared that the other girls may be upset with her because it is a very big new DVD release and it could be the planned centrepiece of the evening.

I don't know the hunger games , so can't comment on that but I would check , in fact I have done when my daughter wanted to watch a 12a with a friend , I sent a text to the mum. She was pleased I'd asked and fine with it.

I wouldn't be too fussed about an 11 year old watching a 12 movie, the number is there as a guidance, and most 12 movies are tame, with only very mild sexual aspects- kissing etc, and as much violence as a cartoon.

I wouldn't let a 7 year old watch a 12 movie, but your DD is so near 12 I don't think it's a biggie here. .

I wouldn't bother tbh, my 9 yo is away to a friends 10th birthday sleepover and she told me they were going to watch the host, 12s are 12A when they are at the cinema so I wouldn't think of it as a big deal tbh.