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Crying when she does a wee :-/ ?

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Tiasmummy · 20/08/2006 10:04

Hi. My daughter has just turned 2 and has been sitting on the potty before her evening bath for quite a while now (hardly ever does anything in it though). Just recently I have been sitting her on it after her breakfast too. She is fine with this. She tells me when she has done a poo in her nappy and knows the difference between wet and dry.Today I thought I would go for it and have put her in knickers this morning, explaining that if she wants to do a wee wee or poo she must pull them down and do it on the potty.

She just did a wee whilst standing up and seems PERTRIFIED of the wee coming out!! She just started crying and seemed really upset. Its like it took her completly be surprise. Maybe as she is not used to "feeling" it coming out so freely as she is in nappies?

Do you think this means she is not ready? Anybody elses child done this?

Thanks :-)

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MoreTeaAnyone · 20/08/2006 10:08

Could you show her that it's normal and that you pee the same way?

I don't have any experience of that kind of thing sorry.

I would try to keep going because if you so and go back to nappies she may get even more upset next time you try. Going back to nappies may make her feel htat she was right in getting upset, that there is something to worry about.

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Tiasmummy · 20/08/2006 10:11

Thanks for the reply Moretea:-) The thing is I have been taking her to the toilet with me for quite a while so I thought she knew all about where pee comes from and stuff like that. I am just a bit confused at her reaction......its so hard to know what to do huh?

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 20/08/2006 10:12

Maybe she's not ready. Give it another few weeks.

My DD learnt by watching me.....

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sallycinnamon · 20/08/2006 10:12

If she's done it on the floor she could be upset with herself because she knows she's not supposed to do it there. I would give lots of praise and cuddles etc She sounds like she's ready if she can tell you when she's done something. I think it takes a little while for them to realise the feeling of needing a wee and then having the time to do something about it. Sounds like you're on the right lines though.
I remember when dd was at this stage I seemed to follow her around with a potty for about the first week and we still had accidents on the floor.

thesatinepimpernel · 20/08/2006 10:13

Can children get cystitis? Could it be that it burns or hurts a little? But my dd took a while to get over that psychological barrier of actually letting the wee go. Now she's fine.

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Tiasmummy · 20/08/2006 10:17

The satine - hmmm...I doubt it is anything like an infection as it would still burn even when she does it in the nappy.

Sally - I think you may be right in that she has to "get" the feeling of when she needs to go before she actually goes. I wonder how long this takes?
She goes to nursery and the manager there seems to think she should be well on her way now :-( God people make u feel presurrised sometimes.

Vicki - She watches me all the time and trys to look round the back!! lol! Sorry if TMI!

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MatNanPlus · 20/08/2006 10:19

Sounds like it caught by surprise.

Oh Dear never mind as you clean up, hers is the potty, should reassure her that accidents happen.

If she can tell you when she is wet/dry and when she has done a pooh it sounds like she is pretty much there.

I used to offer the potty every 20 minutes in the early days and it reduced the accidents and increased confidence.

All the best

MatNanPlus · 20/08/2006 10:21

Tiasmummy, she goes with you but

TMI alert,

has she every 'seen' you do either on the loo from start to finish??

I have found that it can really help them.

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Tiasmummy · 20/08/2006 10:21

Cheers Matnan :-) It must have felt a bit weird for her a guess. It is the first time and it must be a shock.

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Tiasmummy · 20/08/2006 10:22

Matnan - well she tries to look but she more listens to me weeing (sorry!) and when she hears it smiles and says "wee wee, Mummy do wee wee".

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MatNanPlus · 20/08/2006 10:23

Encourage her to use the potty as a chilled thing as she may be apprehensive of going again after last time.

Lots of fluids will get things moving.

MatNanPlus · 20/08/2006 10:25

If you could i would let her see a wee so she knows it falls down and that it's normal, she will be used to a general warmth when she has done one in her nappy not it dissappearing.

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Tiasmummy · 20/08/2006 10:26

I will do. Thanks for your advice. x

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MatNanPlus · 20/08/2006 10:29

Let us know how you and dd get on.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 20/08/2006 13:27

LOL! Not TMI....

Reminds me of the other day when DP was going to the toilet, and a curious DS (16 months) toddled up behind him and stuck his head through DP's legs and tried to look up......

Just as well DP has good control and aim......

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Tiasmummy · 27/08/2006 09:10

No more crying :-)Just thought I would let u know. x

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