accidents at 5

[gypseygirl]

My daughter is nearly 5 and about to start school. I am very worried as she still wets herself regularly . Thing is it isn't a big torrent down her legs like when she had accidents when she was first potty training, i just notice a wet patch gradually appear on her trousers or she says I need the loo and we go to find her pants are already pretty wet.i can control this by reminding her regularly to go to the toilet although she always denies needing to go.i can't work out whether there is a physical problem, can she not tell she needs to go until she feels her pants begin to get damp or is she just lazy? She also still wears nappies at night . Any advice or similar experiences ?

It could be that she gets so involved in what she's doing that she forgets to listen to her body. It could also be that she over-estimates how long she can hang on for - dd is 5 and occasionally leaves it so late that she's a bit damp by the time she gets to the loo.

If it's any consolation, she wouldn't be the first Reception age child to have an accident, and the school should be set up for it with spare clothes and things. Plus you may find that at first the teachers send the children to the toilet at regular intervals anyway - I know dd's school work that way.

I wouldn't worry too much about the fact she's not dry at night - it's very common. 1 in 5 5-year-olds are not dry at night. It's not usually connected with day-time wetting, and isn't seen as a problem until they're about 7.

My ds has just finished reception. He had a couple of accidents at school. They gave him clean clothes and put the wet ones in a carrier. No fuss and no raised eyebrows.
He is also not dry at night.

Thanks for your comments and reassurance.I know that the odd accident in reception is totally usual but the way she is at the moment it could be every day!! She's ok at playschool most of the time because they send them regulalry and she's only there for a few hours at the time - also she's better in the mornings than afternoon.I guess despite all reassurances i just don't want my dd to be the one who 'wets herself' as any little thing can spark off all kinds of friendship /socail problems . i have 2 older sons who both had the odd accident at school and the oldest still wet his bed occasionally til age 9 so i think it may be a genetic thing but neither were as unrelaible as dd!thanks for replying .

my daughter is 4 and she wets herself everyday. there isnt one day that goes by when she does not do it. she also wets her bed at night. im getting all worked up now because she starts full time school next week and she normally wets herself at least twice a day, and i cant see her improving anytime soon. im concerned in case she is bullied. at home i am constantly changing her and asking her if she needs a wee,i cant understand how she went from being dry all day to this? its been going on for about 12 months. i am beggining to think there is something wrong with her because sometimes she dosent know she has wet herself. any advice?