Any other mums who don't really have a routine?

[everythinghippie29]

I feel like a bit of a freak at our baby class as we don't really have a routine. DS is 13 weeks and EBFs on demand, we co sleep so he naps downstairs on my lap or in his Moses basket until we go up to bed where he usually feeds, I read him a book and we go to bed. Generally we wake up when his daddy gets ready for work in the morning but tend to vary when we get up/changed, some mornings we just have a cuddle and songs in bed. He has about three baths a week at the moment (and a top and tail wash daily) but these are as and when he needs one/ we have time to enjoy it. DS seems happy and I am really enjoying our time together and don't feel in a rush to establish any fixed routine as this just feels natural whilst I am able to enjoy as much time as possible with him whilst I am able.

I don't have issue with anyone using routines and I feel totally out of the loop when talking about bedtimes and counting hours between feeds etc when speaking to other mums. I do sometimes worry that DS will suffer for it and it is just me being lazy.

Does/did anyone else get by without a fixed routine?

another make it up as I go along mum here.

dd 9m and until about 6 weeks ago there was nothing in the way of a routine.
now, we get up anytime from 6-9, have porridge an hour after a bf.
go out or play
dinner if she wants some time after 12
baths,play,singing cbeebies etc
bf to sleep for a half hour nap anytime from 1pm-3pm
up and some tea when she's up for it, which can be any time from 5-7 then bed an hour later.

I think routines are very stressful to implement for many breast fed babies. my dd still needs/wants breastfeeds at least every 3 hours . I realise this relaxed baby centricity would be impossible if I had another or had to work. But for now we are both happy, madly in love and she's thriving so we will carry on as we are.

I needed a routine to cope as a mum as I'm an organised person who prefers to know how a day is going to look. Thankfully I had a DD who cooperated nicely!!
Having said that I didn't live by the routine, ie. I didn't let it stop me going places or doing things, that day would just look a little different.
Like some others my main one was a bedtime and we had that established by 4 weeks (which I admit was probably complete fluke) which enabled us to have our evenings and mean going out became an option early on.
Expecting number 2 so we will see if it wasy expert parentin or just a very easy number 1!!! :-)

Agreed, I have found a routine more useful the more dcs I have had, as naturally have to fit around school/pre-school runs (try getting 4 kids five and under up, dressed and fed and out by 8.15am without one!) and 3pm pick up, kids parties, swimming lessons, older kids' dinner etc, although we have never let it stop us doing what we want, I just shove some weaning food in a bag and feed babies in pushchair/highchair when out, or breast feed as necessary in car/seat etc, try to be driving/walking when babies usually have their nap at home so they are still in sleep routine when out, kind of works for me and hopefully will make babies be able to cope without me when I go back to work in a couple of months time, sob!