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opinions on this please, folk.

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colditz · 17/08/2006 14:06

Ds1 is 3. He is a little horror atm who won't stay in his room, or wake me up first thing, he just gets up and does as he pleases.

someone has suggested I put a security chain on his bedroom door, but would this be considered abusive, or neglectful, or

Basically are people going to think I am a bad mother who leaves him locked in his bedroom day and night?

Would anyone not do this? Why, and what would you do instead?

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littleducks · 17/08/2006 20:07

Sorry if this comes across all pie in the sky but have you tried omega 3 and 6 supplements for his behaviour? i only have a baby but used to care for a girl with some learning difficulties and behaviour problems and it helped her concedntrate and calm down, my nephew is on equazen trial and after a week my sil says it has made big difference she had similar probs with him as with your ds he is 5 btw. i was really sceptical but it does seem to work.

on a more practical not i would say hook and eye fastenings maybe on all other rooms then you could use in the day as well. Hope that helps

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colditz · 17/08/2006 21:16

Socci he goes to preschool, but it is closed for the holidays.

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nailpolish · 18/08/2006 07:50

colditz, i feel your wits end, i do i do

i like the idea of the small hook and eye also

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YummyMummyBear · 18/08/2006 09:15

has he got a TV in his room, maybe you could teach him to watch TV in his room - that would prob wake u up to

YummyMummyBear · 18/08/2006 09:16

my little boy is only 4 months - dreading getting to this stage!!

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colditz · 18/08/2006 11:52

Breakthrough.

We fitted tiny bolts to the kitchen and bathroom doors, and also I tied a belt around the handle of the stair gate, which he hasn't worked out yet. He woke me up this mornin, and hasn't trashed anything! Hurray!

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GeorginaA · 18/08/2006 12:23

Yay! Great result

Now all you have to do is train him that mornings start after 9am at the weekends

(and if you work out how, PLEASE tell me how you did it...)

yeahinaminute · 18/08/2006 13:05

A Cage - not for him - for you !!

Place wine, glass, nice food, magazines, cushions, i-Pod,crawl slowly in, make a nest and close the door gently behind you whilst the chaos reigns supreme the other side of the bars !!

GeorginaA · 18/08/2006 13:09

yeahinaminute: that sounds like positive BLISS!

goes cage shopping

nailpolish · 18/08/2006 13:13

oh great news colditz, and thank goodness

yeahinaminute · 18/08/2006 13:14

God - wouldn't it be lovely !!

BTW - is there a room in your house that you can actually call your own ??

Kids have their bedrooms
DH has the study
Me - Bugger all - bedroom is shared with DH and various small people at times, Kitchen - ditto, living room - well that's taken over by the kids, their friends, toys etc completely, Dining Room - same again - Bathrooms - shared ... Gardens - kids toys, and MY washing line - Shed - can't move in it

I'm off cage shopping too !!

nailpolish · 18/08/2006 13:16

yeahina - i try and keep the downstairs bog as my own - i stash magazines there and bars of galaxy - needs must and all that

yeahinaminute · 18/08/2006 13:21

No can do on that - downstairs bog is also 18 year olds bathroom, Family bathroom is for dd and our en - suite is tiny and shared with DH who is 6'5" and is a stranger to the Shower Magic !!

BlueBeetle · 18/08/2006 16:11

Yay Colditz - good result - glad you liked my idea and it worked !

Well done !

claireh11 · 18/08/2006 19:40

get one of the fold-up travel gates. They are made of mesh so dont have an opeining for him to open but you should be able to step over it quite easily. If not it isn't too hard to take it off and put it back on in the evening as its just a pressure fit one

Hayls · 18/08/2006 19:58

I know using the belt worked but jus tto add that i vaguely know someone who used a plastic carrier bag rolled up and tied it with that. It was then really hard to undo cos the plastic was scrunched up and was in a tight know. Then again, her dd?/ ds? (that's how well I know her!) might not be as intrepid as yours!

Hayls · 18/08/2006 19:59

'KNOT'

wannaBe1974 · 18/08/2006 21:41

glad that things were better this morning. Seem to recall similar posts from Tamba around about Christmas time?

If things deteriorate again though, could you put two stair gates one on top of the other? that way you would have to open the top one before the bottom one could be opened and it would be too high for your ds to reach. I don't know why, but I find the idea of a chain/lock of any kind on a bedroom door horrible, even though a gate is a similar restraint really.

dreamteamgirl · 18/08/2006 22:12

These ARE a joke, but the post above reminded me of them.

Really very funny baby cages

Blu · 18/08/2006 22:17

Sorry - haven't read the whole thread, but i think I would try and go with the training him to do 'good' things with a reward, sanctions for 'bad' things, and a chain on your front and back doors above his reach height. Ditto window locks.

At 3 Ds attempted to make me an omlette. Eggs everywhere, and the cheese grater going round in the microwave.....

I would unplug the crucial domestic applicances before you go to bed!

edam · 18/08/2006 22:25

Mummy cage is no joke, you know. My childminder had one when her youngest son was little. Used to put her armchair in the playpen so he couldn't get at her. He'd be happy rampaging round the room as per usual (this child was incredibly strong and destructive) but it gave her five minutes precious 'peace' i.e. without him clambering all over her.

'My' childminder as in the wonderfully warm and caring woman who looked after me and my sister, btw. She is fantastic with children but her youngest son was just born a holy terror. All her long years of experience counted for nothing against this whirlwind. Now all grown up and a great father himself - you'd never know he was such a difficult child.

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