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I'm so P'ed off I could cry.

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colditz · 17/08/2006 09:21

3 year old ds1 got himself up this morning, and got into my makeup. He has used every single item oof my makeup, splurged it all over the bathroom, all over his bedroom, mixed in with a good blob of toothpaste (for extra viscosity, presumably) daubed lipstick, nailvarnish and mascara all over himself and his bed, my bronzer is thickly decorating the toilet rim....

I will laugh, one day, but not yet, because I am effing furious. And frustrated. There is nowhere in my house that he cannot get into if he tries. I caught him climbing over my 6 foot garden frnce because he "Wanted to see those boys, mummy!" Am I going to have to lock all my doors? He has a stairgate on his bedroomm, he opens it with more ease than I do.

I haven't punished him, I was so cross I didn't dare at the time, and of course it is too late now. He has been told off.

What can I do?

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hunkermunker · 17/08/2006 09:24

Oh, Colditz no!

No advice because I'm so sleep-deprived and befuddled I can't think of anything.

But have a hug x x x x

TheLadyVanishes · 17/08/2006 09:24

oh no , get lots of locks do you also tell him what he can and can't get into, sorry my dd is only 13.5mths so she hasn't reached this stage yet

Have a laugh tonight about it over a glass of wine, you'll feel much better by then

Xena · 17/08/2006 09:25

DS1 did it to me at a similar age he spoiled the only new carpet we had put down. Although at 8 he doesn't do blatent things like that he still can't help 'touching, unscrewing etc' When we went to mil house yesterday I warned him before we went in not to touch as the time before last had sat and pick all the needles out of her pin cushion, just absentmindly arghhh.
ANyway no advice just symphathy!

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Frizbe · 17/08/2006 09:26

and {{{{Hugs}}}} make him clean it and himself up for starters, he's never to young to start cleaning IMO, I too would be livid if this happened....and it might yet, dd1 is only 2.9

Chloe55 · 17/08/2006 09:26

Oh no, I'd be gutted - no advice I'm afraid as my ds isn't at that stage yet either but sympathies for you.

Definitely have a few tonight and try and laugh about it though.

Heathcliffscathy · 17/08/2006 09:27

colditz

is anything salvageable?

can imagine how pissed off you are, i'd be beside myself.

good on you for calming down before acting.

surely a bit of confiscation is in order, despite it not being immediate...he is 3 so i'm sure he'd get the link if you talked him through the fact that he has ruined your things and therefore you're temporarily taking something of his away so he can understand how you feel...?

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colditz · 17/08/2006 09:29

he knows my makeup is out of bounds, in fact the bathroom is out of bounds unless you are with a grownup.

I am ubnreasonably gutted, TBH, my makeup is the one thing I have for me. My clothes have become more sensible since having children, I don't wear high shoes, and I don't spend a lot on either - think Peacocks prices - but my makeup is something I spend money on, because that is my treat. It is a long running joke amongst my friends that I spend the same on an eyeshadow as I do on a pair of shoes.

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Heathcliffscathy · 17/08/2006 09:29

Sad Sad Sad

orangegiraffe · 17/08/2006 09:30

When ds1 and dd1 were younger, they tipped my bottle of coco chanel all over the carpet.
Needless to say it was the geniune perfume and not the spray.
I was mortified. Dh bought it back from Ireland for me and it cost a small fortune.
I still have nightmares about it now.

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colditz · 17/08/2006 09:31

Not much is rescuable. All my eyeshadows have been toothpasted (they must look so much like little paints to him)

I have probably half a mascara left, and whatever was in my handbag.

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Mascaraohara · 17/08/2006 09:32

OH NOOOOOOO!!!! poor you! I would have been furious like you.. too angry to punish at the time.

lol at the eyeshadow/shoes thing though

BudaBabe · 17/08/2006 09:32

Oh no - your poor thing. Think I'd cry too.

orangegiraffe · 17/08/2006 09:33

Its a PITA tryng to replace it all, it can take a long time.
Hugs to you

Bozza · 17/08/2006 09:33

Agree with sophable - especially if the evidence (ie the mess and ruined products) is still there.

hoxtonchick · 17/08/2006 09:35

oh what a bugger colditz. ds (who's 4.5 & should know better) trashed one of my favourite eyeshadows this week in the interests of making green fire. god, i was furious. he said he didn't like me with green eyes anyway. there was no bedtime story that night. grrr, it's making me angry again thinking about it. i so know how you feel.

Tatties · 17/08/2006 09:35

Oh dear Colditz. I know how you feel. You want to run outside into a field and SCREAM don't you?! My ds is 16mths and hasn't managed to get himself into that much mess yet, but he is already into EVERYTHING so it won't belong before I wake up to that.

When I felt really frustrated and angry with ds recently because he wouldn't go to sleep (not his fault, nasty mummy I know...) I think he sensed it, and started giggling. I couldn't help but have a laugh with him and it really made me feel better. Just broke the tension, we both relaxed and he went to sleep.

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colditz · 17/08/2006 09:35

All mess is still there, too cross to deal with it.

what shall I do though?

I am dead soft when not physically angry, am starting to think I should not punish because I shouldn'#t have left them there...

But he is 3.5, not 18 months, and I know he knows better, because he jumped out of his skin when I caught him.

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Bozza · 17/08/2006 09:36

Oh yes DS tipped my last bottle of Chanel over the bathroom carpet. And DD has had a couple of Clinique lipsticks (never the freebie with a magazine). but nothing on this scale.

threebob · 17/08/2006 09:37

If it's really expensive stuff then is it worth making an insurance claim?

Bozza · 17/08/2006 09:38

No I disagree colditz. As you said he is 3.5. He has to learn not to touch things. You can't still be locking your make-up away indefinitely. Definitely worthy of a punishment I think.

oliveoil · 17/08/2006 09:39

oh no!!

I think at 3 he is most definitely old enough to know that he has done wrong, you need to sit down with him with a snack and explain that you are upset as he has ruined your stuff.

dd2 drew with my eyeliner all over dd1's bed the other day and I was livid but tried to keep calm as to her it was a crayon, but she is not yet 2.

Heathcliffscathy · 17/08/2006 09:54

colditz, you KNOW that he has an equivalent to your make up....come on i know it has popped into your head as i've said that.....you need to take that a put it above the fridge, or somewhere else where it can be seen but not reached preferably and explain why and comfort him if he gets upset about it but explain that maybe next time he will think about it before he does something like that, as things are not the be all and end all but they are important and can matter a lot to people.

that's what i think.

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colditz · 17/08/2006 10:04

Playdoh is in a locked cupboard as we speak

Ds is sobbing and saying it's not fair. But have given him a choice - it either stays there and he will have it back tomorrow, or I will break it, like he has done my makeup.

he has chosen for it to stay there.

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colditz · 17/08/2006 10:05

He's got a sad little face now, i feel like a grumpy cowbag.

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puff · 17/08/2006 10:07

ooh, huge sympathy - ds2 (also 3) got hold of a bottle of expensive body oil a few weeks a go and proceeded to throw it all up the walls. As we hve lining paper that is painted over, the hall and landing are now a disgusting mess as the oil has soaked in. Will be very difficult to paint over .

(((hugs)))