Poo regression in ds aged 2.4 after a fortnight

[PollyParanoia]

Hello, I wasn't going to contribute to this board because of my unbearable smugness in just how brilliantly ds was doing. But, arggh, I am now punished for smugness.
In the first two weeks, ds was brilliant about going to do a poo on his own and we didn't have a single accident (only occasional wee accidents). Once a day, very regular, always self-prompted.
Then at the weekend, I felt he was holding them back or waiting for a night-time nappy. Then day before yesterday, he got very agitated, I asked him if he wanted his potty, but he ran away and did a poo in his pants. He seemed traumatised by this, incredibly upset. Then nothing yesterday, despite slightly distended stomach, then again, today, he ran to the same corner and pooed his pants minutes after I'd asked him.
He seems so upset by it so that probably upsets me more. I don't know what's going on, as he immediately says afterwards "no poo in pants, poo in yellow potty".
I don't want him being upset by this, but at the same time, he seems ready for potty training and hates being put in a nappy rather than pants. Oh, and I've got another one due so would ideally want to get this sorted.
Am I being too tough in wanting to continue? Should I just be chilling about a couple of accidents? Will my gorgeous boy be anally retentive for the rest of his life?
Any advice please...

I'm pretty new to the potty training myself but DD is almost 3 and has a few accidents each week. She does brilliantly for a wee while and then it all goes to pot (see DD crapped in DH's guitar thread for the details)

I think you just have to persevere but shall bump in your honour as there are more wise MN folk who'll know - Cod for one!

We have been potty training ds (now 2.7) since the end of June. He's pretty much trained for wee but we're only just getting there with poo. At first they were all in his pants but now we have quite a few in the loo or potty. I've found the softly softly approach works - massive amounts of praise when he poos in the right place (plus occasionally a few smarties) and phoning daddy at work to tell him has really helped. You also have to be VERY reassuring re the 'accidents' in the pants, grit your teeth and clean up. It helps to have a poo kit in your bathroom - we have gloves, nappy bags and wipes in a bag in both loos to avoid stress. Also if he'll do it in front of a DVD let him try - we have managed to wean off but occasionally I do still use it if he seems more worried about it than usual. My sister used to work in a nursery and says you have to be very careful about anxiety around this whole thing as they can start retaining and get constipated, then it starts to hurt when they go and you've got an impossible situation. From reading other posts on here I think the poo taking longer to sort is pretty common. Good luck with no2 btw - have two myself.....

Ah thanks for your reassurance. I think I was a bit freaked because for two weeks, he'd just go off and do it by himself (which wasn't happening for wees). And now it's the other way round. Maybe they can only cope with getting one right at a time at the beginning. But you're both right about persevering and not getting angsty about it. I should take it as a personal failing when it happens.
So don't want him in therapy in two decades' time complaining about his mother's approach to potty training...
Polly

Oh my god! I have just registered on mumsnet after having another traumatic evening trying to get my MM who is 3 to do a poo on the potty/toilet. I can't believe the amount of mums having the same problems!

MM has been constipated on and off since 6 months old, we have tried supp, lactulose and were finally presc movical last yr, has been on varying doses since. We successfully potty trained in a week at Easter and was dry at night by May......but have had major problems with doing a poo, he held onto it at first, to stop him hanging and making himself ill we put a pullup on, he would go, then he would put his pants back on. The toliet/potty totally freaked him out, he nows holds it for most of the week when at nursery and then spends all weekend doing poos 6 or more over the two days, which is delightful and our house smells lovely !!! MM has never stood to do poo, he has always sat on his bum but leaning back on his arms. This is where I think the problems lie, he doesn't know how to do push a poo on the toliet (if that makes sense!!) Do we continue with the nappy?? will he grow out of it? should we force him to sit on the toilet? We have tried stickers,sweets,bribery and nothing seems to work. HELP, any advice would be gratefully received!

Just posting to say I'm another MNer with lo with a pooing problem. DS is 3.8. Have been PT since May and and has only done 10 poos in the potty in all that time. He's determined not to and when he has it's been by accident.

I can only agree with the posts about ignoring accidents as much as you can. I've got really stressed about the poos and it's made it much worse as DS is now stressed about it too. No doubt years of therapy to follow. Not sure what I can do to get out of this situation but don't do the same! I think best to just say nothing at all, just clean it up and carry on.

Good luck