Nursery -v- home - is he taking the proverbial???

[VickyA]

My ds (3.5) has been dry at (3 day a week) Nursery for many months, but I've not tackled the home bit , 'cos he's very definite that he's not interested.
Now I know he's taking the proverbial, and we need to do something, but he has only used the potty ONCE at home, and never the toilet. I know he'll have hysterics if I try not putting a nappy on him, but am prepared for this if someone will tell me this will work...
He's very sure of himself, and absolutely definite that he doesn't wear big boy pants at home...
What do I do?? Do I just leave him with nothing on and hope he eventually prefers the loo/potty to the floor, in protest. Do I suggest a nearby hedge or something similarly wacky, to break him out of his absolute avoidance of home-based receptacles?? Have I completely blown it by leaving it too late?
I would so appreciate any help/advice y'all can give.

Not sure I can offer any advice but lots of support! I'm in a similar sort of boat with DS (3.8). We started with the potty at 3.5 and he's not at all keen. He has dry days at my inlaws and sometimes at nursery (although that's regressed lately) but never at home.

It's become a battle of wills where every trip to the toilet involves a bribe (no tea, video, trip etc until you go) and he absolutely refuses to do poos on the potty. After 3 months of poos in his pants we've gone back to pullups.

I really don't know what to advise you as I know from experience that if they don't want to play ball, they just won't. My only suggestion is that the only things that have really got my DS interested were when I promised to run around the garden yelling if he did a poo ( that worked about twice!) or being allowed to wee behind a tree.

Perhaps if you kept the nappies on but "allowed" him to do something like wee in bucket in the garden it would get him started?

The main thing is to not get stressed - I did / still do and I'm sure it's made everythig worse as DS doesn't want to co-operate but also feels bad when he has accidents and asks if I still love him .

Good luck and keep us posted.