Hello, forgive me if this has been discussed before. My son has a friend who is behaving rudely towards him (and me) and is saying some mean things. My son is not in the least bit phased by this or interested. This boy was friends with other boys who now spend a bit more time with my son instead. I'm not sure if it's a jealousy thing but the boys are saying that this kid has changed since he joined secondary school and they don't really bother with him too much (they are in year 7). Whereas most kids will just say "go away....(name)" my son will respond with a cutting remark or something sarcastic. Clearly this boy doesn't like this and he has said he is going to stay away from my son - which would be great - but he doesn't. He keeps coming up to him saying insulting things. Andnow he has obviously said something to his mother.
Now the mother of this boy, who is a friend of mine, is coming around this afternoon to discuss this. I like the mother but she tends to be very controlling and gets her own way in her home. She will find the opposite in mine... Personally I think 12 year old boys should be able to sort out their own grieveances (within reason of course, i.e. if it's bullying (been there) or physical etc. then I will step in without question), and this situation is clearly just sour grapes that will no doubt ripen over time.
However, any advice in dealing with the mother? My son does not instigate these situations, he merely responds to them, but he gives as good as he gets - he has been taught to stand up for himself. What should I say to her? Help. I don't want to ruin any friendships. Thanks!