bl**dy annoyed with husband... help

[hettytucker]

why is it that my husband thinks he can ring me from work with a suggestion from his boss on reolving our 2yo ds sleeping prob ... and expects me to simply agree and go along with it after min discussion. he is all keen to start tonight desoite fact it is going to take several days and lack of sleep for us. whereas i have been saying for months that we need to use withdrawl techinique and that he needs to take week off work to do it and he has done feck all TILL NOW?

please excuse typing as i am doing it one handed while bf'ing 4mo dd.

should i just graciously accept bosses sugg of barricading ds in bedroom with stairgate and let dh get on with it ... or insist on my sim but more softly softly approach? can anyone understand why i am po'd about this?

Am i being ott?

Tell DH if his boss is such an expert, why doesn't boss take your LO and establish the routine?!

I too would be annoyed if my dh did this. that said, i'm not sure why your husband needs to take a week off work for the wthdrawal technique?
I'd never barricade a child in and let them cry though,.

whatever you decide to do you need to be agreed on it and both full understand the pros and cons.

it must be a cause for concern for your dh
as he has mentioned this to his boss

maybe just trying to help tbh

cheers
mary i think a week off to do the withdrawl would be necessary cos ds is waking up at all hours through night and dd is waking up for feeds in early hours so dh would not get suff sleep for long commute to work in london etc...

still i will be perfectly lovely rational and understanding by time dh gets home tonight

Hi Hetty,
Surely,if your going to get his full support and help it's better to "let him think",it was all his idea.

Hi Jac
See your point but my pesky ego always gets in the way - and the fact that I am rubbish at hiding my emotions. Not very keen on putting up barricade to ds door so we need to have a discussion about that at least - am happy to let hub have his say but won't start a process i am not comfortable with - being consistent is important to me.

I'd be p'd off not so much about the boss making the suggestion, but about DH taking notice when he hadn't taken notice of me. However try to be big about it and be thankfull that he's now actually involving himself - adapt the bosses suggestion so that it morphs into your own idea and go from there.

emplace stairgate, massage dh's ego (NOT at expense of own), involve him with all things sleep-trainy
then use withdrawal technique without telling dh this is what it's called so he thinks it is part & parcel of the stairgate method hence all his idea
peace with honour perhaps?

Thannk you for your advice
logging off now as dh will be home soon - but will be gracious etc.

Ironically ds failed to have lunchtime nap and has nodded off in front of Richard and Judy so god knows what will happen re. sleep tonight. oh well (sigh)