Bed Wetting

[niamh29]

My 4.5 yo DD still wets the bed. We lift her each night about 1.5-2 hrs after bedtime and then she is "usually" fine for the night, if she is going to wet the bed it's usually between 9 and 9:30pm. Most of the time she doesn't even know she wet the bed in the morning and we don't mention it cause we know there nothing we can do but I'm wondering if lifting her is the right thing to do, should we use the training pants instead??? She's a very heavy sleeper in the first 3-4 hrs of sleep and just can't seem to wake up!

maybe she just isnt ready to be dry yet. It isnt considered an issue until around the age of 7/8years. It isnt advised to lift to the toilet unless you wake her enough to be aware of what she is doing, otherwise you are just training he to pee in her sleep.

If we don't lift her (and she is asleep when we lift her, she barely wakes) she will wet the bed every night. What's the alternative?

An alternative can be pull ups. Either size 6 or the bigger children's pygama pants depending on her weight.

waken her a bit more before she pees so she is more aware or go back to pull ups

Will try and wake her up but if that isn't happening then will go to pull ups. Thanks!

Ds is also a bed wetter if we don't wee him. He is austic and we have support for him. I mentioned he still wets the bed( he's 8 now ) . The OT researched abit for me and some of her info helped for awhile until our routine changed( bloody navy but that's another story!!) we increased his water intake during the day. Even having water to go to bed with. We cut caffeine down ( comes in lots of food!!) and he didn't eat for at least one hour before going to bed. Worth a try.

From the advice on here we have done 3 weeks of trying to wake DD2 up to go to the toilet, it's not working as she just won't wake up, she's a very deep sleeper. So am thinking we should try pull ups but I'm worried that DD1 and DD3 will comment on them and make her feel bad; any tips on how to manage this???

We had a similar type of issue. DD1 is 6 and is not dry at night. She's also a heavy sleeper and her pull ups are always full in the morning even if we lift her. She has never woken up to go to the toilet. On the other hand DD2 (4.5yrs) has been dry at night and out of nappies for ages now (over a year I think). Even when in nappies she would wake up and ask to go to the loo. The youngest didn't want to sleep without nappies until the eldest had too. But we explained that different children are ready to do different things at different ages (some might walk/talk sooner than others). We were very matter of fact, never made it sound like its a bad thing that DD1 is not dry at night. We did a reward chart to convince DD2 to wear knickers at night (but the reward was for wearing knickers not for being dry). Funnily enough it wasn't an issue with DD1. Not sure that helps you much.