And the saga rolls on ....
DH wrote letter to his parents to further explain our expectations and rules about their dog being kept away from our dd - a telephone conversation and face to face explosive evening didn't sink in so this was the last effort on our behalf !
Result ? Utter unacceptance that the dog might do any harm and accusation that we are being hypersensitive.
We are due at a wedding in a couple of weeks time and are staying in in-laws small holiday cottage. It has no backgarden and not a lot of living space. My in-laws were going to babysit dd at the cottage (1st time babysitting in 2.5 yrs) for the afternoon and eve as no children allowed at wedding. We had originally said 'Fine as long as dog stays at home with BIL'. But, MIL is refusing to leave dog behind (even though he goes into kennels if they go away for the weekend/ on hol etc.) saying 'It's out cottage, our rules and the dog comes with us'.
DH had words over the phone and is v upset at their behaviour and has basically said that we'll stay in the wedding hotel and my sister will look after dd.
We are standing by our guns and refuse to be bullied or blackmailed into submission. Personally I think it's all about control. MIL can't accept that a son may possibly defy her and not agree with her on anything.
Question is, how do we go forward from this? I feel so sad for my dh but very proud of the way he's stood up to his MIL in particular as they are pretty formidable.
Couldn't sleep last night as I was sooooo angry about all this. Just can't believe they are being so horrible, they haven't given a thought to how upsetting it is for dh especially as we have health issues to worry about with our dd.
Aggghhhhhhhhh !