Children's behaviour

[blackheathtrendy]

Hello, would you want to know if your child was being mean or hurtful towards another child, or would you try and dismiss it?

I'd want to know. But it wouldn't be an easy thing to hear.

I believe that as long as your not accusing a child, then it's ok. I've just told a mother that her child shouted at my child "my mum hates you very much" in front of other children and that I thought she should know and she was dismissive and accused me if being an interfering parent. She never that it was an untrue statement.

I'd absolutely want to know! I don't know how I'd react but I'd want to know!

I'd want to know, how can you address it otherwise? If they're being mean/spiteful to another child it might be them acting out on the way their feeling, there might be deeper issues there affecting their behaviour - it'd be remiss as a parent not to want to know.

I'd want to know but I'd also want to here my child's version of events (privately) before coming to any conclusions about what exactly was going on, or making them apologise etc. If a child was mean to mine I'd want more info on exactly what was going on too.

IME mean behaviour in young children very rarely occurs in a vacumn. That doesn't mean that one child can't be at fault but ususally there is some context that's useful to know.

Yes I would want to know...absolutely. However, there is a fine line between need-to-know and getting tales of trivia, and which category the behaviour falls into can be subjective.

For example...one mum approached me in the playground two years ago because my 10 yr old son had used the word 'shit' in front of hers, and she didn't want her son hearing language like that.
I took her seriously and apologised, then assured her I would have words with my son (which I did) but personally I thought the matter was trivial, and definitely not something I would ever dream of approaching another parent about if the tables were turned.
Dyswim?

id want to know too.

i suspect that the mother did say something nasty about your child and is mortified at her child parroting it, thus her dismissive attitude.

this is why i never ever say anything nasty or bitchy about anyone in front of the dc

how old are the children?

They are 7 years old. The mother was very defensive and never denied the comment, but tried to berate me by saying "I'm surprised your telling me this and what do you expect me to do or say". She defended her child's behaviour and criticised my parenting, saying I shouldn't interfere and that heron never listens to her and that he never tells here anything. Yet she was telling me that my child has been mean to her child a long time ago. I said I apologise for my child's behaviour and would have words with him as that is unacceptable. I never expected such passive aggressive behaviour, as I just thought she should know. How she dealt with it was up to her.

I'm a mother of 4 soon to be 5, my 3 eldest children are from a previous relationship that ended due to domestic violence from the ex, 2 of he 3 children still see there father every other weekend and Tuesday for tea due to court order, it my daughter who I have the problem with its like she hates living at home she is so disrespectful to me and worse to my partner she calls me names she just won't do anything she's told the list is endless she wants to live with her dad's yet this man just lets her down broken promises does not provide he just thinks he's spitting me. Will do anything and everything he says to the point were it scare you. Any advice please.