Advice needed please: should dc share a room or have a room each?

[kerry85]

I have a 2yo dd and a 7mo dd.
our oldest dd has been in her own room from 6mo but since youngest was born she started waking and we brought her into our bed for fear she would wake the baby. Before that we would let her cry it out so she didn't end up in our bed.
Now it is every night that she wakes up at 1am and comes into out bed. Dh has been sleeping on the couch
Now the time has come to put the youngest into her own room. I feel they would both stay settled if they shared a room, knowing that they had one another there. When I was growing up me and my sister had our own rooms but always slept in each others room.
Or will we be making it hard work, getting them to settle each night? Will they disturb one another rather than comfort one another? Should they have their own room?

Please give me honest advice, experiences and opinions. Thank you

Surely there is no 'should' about it? We put ours in together as we wanted them to become close from an early age. They separated when the eldest was 8. Sharing was right for our dds but not right for all families.

Our 3 and 4 yo dds have shared a room since the youngest was under 1- at one point they were both in cots! They love sharing a room and would be lonely now I think if they didn't.

Ashtrayheart what do you do if one wakes in the middle if the night?
We want to stop our 2yo from wanting to come in our bed

do you actually want them to share a room or do you just want a solution to DD1 coming into bed with you?

If you want them to share then they can share, no issues. especially as they are both girls and close in age they will probably love it.

if you are trying to solve the problem you need to keep them seperate for now and keep putting DD1 back in her own bed. i expect your youngest will sleep through any protests from DD1 (my DTs sleep through each other and they share a room, and DS1 sleeps through them both from his room). i think you would find it easier to address the problem with them seperate. you could always ask DD1 if sh wants to share with DD2, if she does use it as motivation - if she stays in her bed in her room then she will be able to move and share with DD2.

If one of them wakes they don't ever wake the other up, we can usually settle them but sometimes the one who wakes will come in with us. I don't mind this though as long as it's not every night!

Now they are 3 and 4 they only wake if they are poorly or need the loo!

I shared a room with my little sister (6 year age gap) from age 7 to 18 when I left home!