I do NOT want another DC so why do I still feel broody???

[TisforTiger]

I am very happy with 2 DC, but I'm exhausted and would like some time to myself. With my youngest coming up to 1.5 this is becoming a little more possible. Also I want to re-focus a little on my career and do some training. My DH is also happy with 2 DC and financially/space it is sensible.

So I convinced 2 is enough.

BUT I still get so broody at times. I think about being pregnant and having a new born and in the future having 3 grown up DCs.

Tell me it's just biology, a clever way to get the human race to reproduce and I have not lost my senses.

I could have written your OP. I have two. I am happy with two. I want to retrain and go to university.

I was a week late this month and not one single part of me was even a bit hopeful that I was pregnant again.

But I still feel like our family isn't complete. Like I need one more. And I too see three grown DCs.

No answers for you, just sympathy!

Oh me too! i hated my second pregnancy, newborns stress me out, my babies don't sleep, I'm sooo looking forward to having school age children and me and DH getting a bit of time for us, doing more hours at work ...
But I think about a third baby all the time - madness! It's biology and it comes from my gut not my head. I'm trying very hard to ignore it

Oh god, me too! I'm totally happy with my two. 4 and a half and 18 months. I'm loving getting my career back on track (part time), looking forward to the end of pushchair days and nappies, even getting a half decent amount of sleep now. We're planning our next cars (one small, one big, but neither of them people carriers), and working out how to get ourselves more space in the house.

I love DD's relationship with her little brother. I can't imagine her with another sibling.

A third child would change everything.

But I think about it ALL the time! I'm 38. Assume it's bloody biology.

I very nearly died in my second pregnancy. Twice.
I have been told by many medical consultants not to get pregnant again.

But I am still soooo broody! Damn ovaries/hormones.

Yep, I know that in every single way 2 is enough for us.

But I still spend a lot of time imagining having another.

I didn't actually realise until I read on here how bodies/hormones etc want you to procreate so that does help me be a bit rational. But then again- little tiny baby snuggles!

I'm happy with two lies

Practically and financially speaking, two makes sense. My youngest is 2, sleeps well, getting more independent etc etc. work seems to be getting back on track.

However my heart wants a third but I've managed to suppress it through logic

worries about the menopause when I'll regret it

Its biology. I had 4 before i knew it.

It is your hormones, I think it's far more rare to not want "just one more" than it is to always want another despite logic.

I have 4, my hormones still wanted a 5th and I was devasted when I decided to be sterlised

Snap OP. I'm so over babies, our house is de-child proofed and we've decided we're ready to redecorate as the kids have stopped peeing on the floors and can use the lav alone-ish but I've got the names of my 'next' 2 kids ready. Unless I have a happy twin accident in the next 5 years of course...

I could have written exactly the same post, 3yo and 13mo yet keep on thinking about a third.

Whole host of practical reasons not too and like others I would like to start getting some time for myself back but still can't quite shake the idea.

The strange thing is I don't picture 3 children, I can picture another baby and imagine having 3 teenagers / grown up children but it doesn't feel like a third child is missing IYSWIM!

Ditto, ditto, ditto

Thanks ladies, I feel a lot better to know I'm not the only crazy hormonal woman.

I KNOW that a 3rd is not right for us so not going to even contemplate it.

So instead I'm thinking dog/cat/rabbit purchase.

Looking at puppies now. I want one!!!!!

I've decided it's not necessarily reproductive biology but my own mortality slapping me in the face.

I have 3 gorgeous DCs. Twins, both sexes, all boxes ticked. Logically none of us would really benefit from another. The problem is that I can't quite believe that part of my life is over. I feel a bit old and defunct. It's just too soon!

While I was EBF this drove me mental. I had horrific pregnancies, one preemie and I never ever ever want to be pregnant again. But for the first 9mo of DS2s life I just wanted another baby.

It's eased off a bit now, thankfully but I do still get the odd broody moment. Strangely, after I'd had DS1 I wasn't broody at all, definitely didn't want another and DH talked me into it.

Yes, even though I am here being squashed under a 10mo DS2 who does not go to bed but just sleeps on me all evening an inch from the boob.....and he has a horrendously pesky elder brother aged three...I still want another baby.

Even though the two I have are almost killing me.
Even though I don't want to be pregnant again.
Even though I want to get on with my career.
Even though I want to have a relationship with my husband which is more than barking orders at each other.
Even though I don't want to bugger my body any further.
Even though I haven't had a full night of sleep for three years.
Even though I have aged more in the last three years than the previous decade....

I still want one more. I want to see how the genes play out. I want one more little boy or girl to join our family. I must also be insane.

Me too. 3.5 and 12 months. Why can't I just stick with two. So much easier and straightforward.

And yet every fibre of my being would love another. 3 just seems such wonderful fun. I am hoping it will abate, I really am

Me too. A 6yo and a 2yo, lovely girls, I definitely do not want any more children. Hated being pregnant, am fat and 42. But, but, I want to go to MW appointments that I hated and give birth which I hated and have a snuggly newborn and buy prams and tiny vests...

Me too. 10 and 7 year old DDs. I want another baby SOOOOOOO badly.

I am both relieved and hugely, royally fucked off that the decision has been taken away from me by early menopause at age 37/38. Fucking hormones.

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ruby - I will just retread your list when I get the broodyness as that pretty much sums me up.

Yes ruby (except the ph part I loved it)

I had the exact same feeling.

So, after a four year gap, we had dc3. He's wonderful. I am virtually unable to cope with three and ever have any time to myself. It's plenty, I'm knackered, I have no idea how I will be able to work and have three children and we have NO money. I also feel so lucky to have had three healthy children, I feel it would be pushing my luck to have another. Everyone told me I would "know" when I was "done".

But I don't, I don't!

Does the itch for "just one more" ever go away? It would be insanity. My husband is dead against it, quite reasonably. But I take my pill and still think about missing the odd one and playing a little pill roulette....

Yep. I have just clawed back my own life now, at 36.

My two are 5 & 9. I'm finally progressing in my career again, kids both at school and can do basic things for themselves, so less pressure on me. No more nursery fees, no more toddler tantrums and sleepless nights and none of the constant physical grind of babies and toddlers. I sleep well, DH and I get to go out now and then, I am slim and fit for the first time in a decade...its all ticking along nicely.

I had hyperemesis and then quite serious obstetric cholestasis in my last pregnancy and swore never again. DH will be 50 this year and just chucks a hollow laugh at anyone who even whispers the question 'any more kids for you two, then?'

And yet...and yet....

Thank god it's not just me - I thought I was losing my mind! Nobody I know is feeling like this (unless they aren't admitting it!) but we have 2yo DS1 and 7 week old DS2 and I'm already thinking about number 3.

DH sys no and I know practically its not at all a good idea - we don't have another bedroom; I have a condition that could do with sorting by going back on the meds I had to stop for ttc; we're knackered and get bugger all sleep as it is; financially I don't know how we'd manage.

I'm also looking forward to being past the nappy and pushchair stage, and being able to go out and leave DC overnight. But, I can't stop thinking about that 3rd baby. Would we have a girl, or a 3rd boy? Hell, I already have potential names picked! I've spent a lifetime listening to my gut and my gut tells me to have another but my head is going "noooo!"