'Naughty' boy in DS's class won't back off...

[nldm1]

My DS, who is nearly 6, is quite quiet and sensitive. He attends a small village school and in his class of 12 kids there is one boy who is forever shoving the other kids about and egging them on to do or say naughty things.
He really seems to target DS and spends a lot of time trying to either hurt or threaten him or try and get him in to trouble. DS tells the teacher and we have spoken to her about it, but this boy seems to be very good at being sneaky about it.
I recently spoke to this boys mum but was met with a "boys will be boys" b.s. answer.
All of the other parents share my view of this kid, so I know it's not just me, but I'm just fed up that he won't leave my son alone!
DS says he doesn't want to be friends with this boy. What can we do to make sure this kid gets the message?!

Speak to the head 1st, 2nd see if you can get a few mums to speak to the mother aswel. Keep it calm and relaxed but get the point over that boys will be boys view is a cop out.

1. Keep a diary of the incidents and record everything that happens, date and time and what was said.
2. Ring the school on Monday morning and tell the class tutor what has been going on.
3. Write to the school/teacher about the problems. It needn’t be long and rambling just short and to the point. "Dear Headmaster..." “I am very disappointed to find that … My son/daughter is very unhappy at school because …”
4. At the end of next week, check with the school to see what has been done. Ask them what progress has been made regarding these problems.
5. If you are not happy that the problems are being addressed then take it up with the Headteacher. Ask what progress has been made regarding the problems.
6. You may choose to approach one of the Governors about the problems ‘I’m concerned about … I want to make sure that I’m going about this in the right way’. The Governors should just check that the correct procedures are been followed.
7. How the school addresses parental concerns is a measure of how good the school is.

Thank you for the advice. Unfortunately, this boys mum is one of the governors so I think that option is out and I think that's part of why this all feels so awkward. But I'm going to have a word with DS's teacher again on Monday and if things are still going on as before in a week or two, I think I'm going to have to bring it up with the Head.
It's odd because I wouldn't call it full on bullying so much as it feels like this boy is trying to recruit DS to his way of doing things. DS doesn't seem to feel worried orbscared so much as he seems fed up with being bothered.
I just really don't want things escalating.

... this boys mum is one of the governors ...
So what? This doesn't change anything.
If the Mum is a Governor then perhaps she would fine it easier if her husband could approach the school about the problem.
Whatever she chooses, the school should be made aware of the problem.

... I just really don't want things escalating ...
The school will ignore any problem they don't know about.

1. Keep a diary ...
2. Tell the school ...

You have been told

"Spends a lot of time trying to either hurt or threaten him"

"I wouldn't call it full on bullying"

Only one of these statements can be true......

Curlew. I guess what I mean is that my son isn't feeling scared of this boy and this boy isn't stopping my son from wanting to be at school or having a good time while he's there. DS seems fed up with being bothered but more in an slightly annoyed nagging way. Viewing it from the point of view of how my DS actually feels rather than how the actions seem intended to make him feel, that's where the apparent contradiction occus.

DanFmDorking
It's the other boys mum that is the governor and she's already made it apparent that she doesn't see her son behaviour as an issue.
Also, I've
to the teacher already. Like I said already, she's aware, but this boy is very good at doing this while no one is looking. I can tell them till I'm blue in the face but it seems like if they don't see it for themselves then it doesn't exist! Very frustrating!
Good idea about the diary though...

... the other boys mum that is the governor ...
This Governor thing is irrelevant - it might be awkward, but it's irrelevant.
The child’s behaviour needs to be sorted out by the school.

I would approach the Chair of Governors (or another Governor that is (perhaps) also a Governor at another School (i.e. they have a lot of experience) or appointed by the Local Authority) and explain the situation, This other Governor should ensure that the correct procedure is followed.

The school will ignore any problem they don't know about.

1. Keep a diary ...
2. Tell the school ...

if he is being brought up as 'boys will be boys' by a mother who thinks the sun shines out of his shorts, he is on the fast-track bullying training course. He may only be 6 but it is already showing results. He will end up as the kid everyone hates or fears so he'll be unhappy too.

please take action as detailed.