Parenting and Sex.. ohh no!!! (TMI)

[Saku]

Hi All,
I am first time mum of 7 months old DS.. My DH is very supportive, he helps me in households and in caring baby too. But the problem is it seems all my sex desires have been gone to grave yard. One cant believe that in these 7 months we would have been rarely engaged 3-4 times. That to DH insisting too much then.
I know for a happy relationship sex is a need. My DH also dont force me and goes in a romantic way so that I will not feel hurried up or uncomfortable but I dont know as soon as he goes in to romance I start getting fury and anger.. and start yelling on everything and some how get his mood off. This situation is creating unwanted soreness in our lovely cute family.
Some time I feel very bad for him.. I want everything back as it was OR not same then at least better.

Please help me .. is everyone feel like this way??????????????... what you did?? tell me some food, exercise or something which will alive my sex drive..

Thanks and sorry if TMIs

Saku, it can be difficult to get in the mood I know. Have you tried taking some time out to make yourself feel good about yourself? Someone to help with baby so you get a lie in (!) a trip to the hairdressers, a new dress - that sort of thing. That sometimes helps with me.
Tbh, having a bath by myself and defuzzing was such a rarity in the early days that that alone helped,

Don't worry, the more you have sex, the more you will want. You just have to bite the bullet (not literally!) and do it a few times. That worked for me anyway.

Are you breastfeeding??? I had no sex drive whilst feeding . The minute I stopped it came back x

Bedsheets4knickers ohhh yes my son is fully breastfed. But I dont want to stop feeding my baby for this.

Thanks everyone for your suggestions. I will try on your suggestions.

I think when you have a 7 month old it's pretty standard to not feel like having sex. Personally I'd tell my Dh to bog off if he was pestering me! Your baby is little and you are probably shattered plenty of time for sex a bit later on. Thank God Dh was understanding because I swear I'd have chopped it off of he'd waved it in my direction when I was so tired

I have to confess that I have had very low / zero sex drive ever since i had my first born. We now have 3 kids, ages 2, 4 & 6, and I have to admit, since the new year, it is THE first time that i have actually felt like wanting sex / have instigated sex / been p'eed off when DH has actually turned down my advances!!! Its like the clock stuck midnight and 2014 is the year I will FINALLY re-discover my mojo!

Sleepless nights, breastfeeding, thinking the only thing one should ever do in bed is SLEEP were the main passion killers. I used to freeze / cringe / go mad when my DH tried to get me in the mood. We had sex infrequently, I went on the pill then came back off as we wondered if that was killing my sex drive. I have to admit I did indulge in guilt sex, just to keep DH happy. When we did do the deed, I enjoyed it, but I wouldnt have been bothered either way.

I think its actually quite a taboo subject really - sex after babies. I just couldnt get in the mood whilst breastfeeding (and I bf my 3rd for 22 months!). I couldnt bare nursing a baby all day then having DH grope the very same feeding equipment!

So afraid I don't have masses of advice other than, you're not alone, it will pass, you will re-discover your sexual side. Just chat to you DH and explain exactly how you feel - I finally did just that after my 3rd, and my DH was so sweet and understanding. I think men sometimes think we've gone off them altogether when we don't want sex, so just explain thats not the case! GOod luck, it'll pass, you'll be like rabbits again someday

I agree with breastfeeding..it totally dried me up, so to speak. And combined with the horrible mini pill…I felt no drive. However, I knew I wanted to be the "old" me so badly…so I just faked it.
Had sex, get a tube of tingling lube and just sort of pretended it was good. Another thing is to try to incorporate a vibrator? those things are soooo strong its hard for them to not work.

Its sounds crazy now, but as soon as I got off those pills and stopped breastfeeding, it all came back. And for that short period of time in the big picture, it was ok that I wasn't that into it. At least my husband wasn't ignored..those men, its pretty easy for them to climax :0