Small age gap

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Currently have ds 8m. I've just poas and got a faint bfp.
I'm terrified. I think we only dtd twice last month!!
I wouldn't say this was planned, but wouldn't be the worse thing to happen either. I would love another, but not sure about this quickly. I am worried as I had 3mcs before we had ds so not sure if it could happen again, and obviously af could come yet as I tested a couple of days early but I just had a feeling.
I'm not sure how I'm going to tell DH, he's an amazing dad but he will worry about me, and it means having another year off work so money will be tight. I've not lost my baby weight yet can my body cope so quickly? I didn't have a very easy pregnancy, very sick, pre eclampsia to name a few.
Any stories from anyone with a small gap would be very much appreciated. Sorry from rambling on. I am excited but absolutely terrified, and have no idea whether to tell DH now who will worry, or wait till af is actually late then test together?

This was me a few months back! Firstly - congratulations!

My two are 16 months apart, DS1 is 2 and DS2 is 10 months. DS2 was a little bit of a shock for us too!

The hardest bit of it all (so far) was being heavily pregnant with a toddler who still needed lifting/carrying a lot. It was so tiring.

We were lucky in that DS2 is a pretty good sleeper, but it's definitely hard getting up and being cheerful with DS1 if DS2 has had a bad night.

But I love having them so close together, I can't remember not having DS2 if that makes sense?!

My best bits of advice would be:

• don't assume this pregnancy/baby will be the same as last time - DS1 was horrendous pregnancy/awful sleeper/brilliant feeder whilst DS2 was easy pregnancy/good sleeper/bad feeder!
• keep your toddler in routine, fit baby around him as much as possible.
• get a good baby sling - you will use it a lot!
• there's no way I could cope without a double buggy (somewhere to strap DS1 down if I need to feed DS2 whilst out and about).
• let the small things slide - DS1 watched far too much cbeebies and ate too many biscuits for the first few months whilst DS2 was constantly feeding.
• get out of the house every day even if its just to the supermarket.
• enjoy your DC2 - he/she will grow up even quicker than your DC1!

Sorry that's s bit rushed. Am typing on phone whilst soothing DS2 back to sleep.

Good luck, hope you have a lovely smooth pregnancy this time around!

Sorry just realised you didn't actually ask for advice...I got a bit carried away

Definitely tell your husband - you're a team! I'm not an expert but I doubt a bfp will disappear in a few days.

Thank you. That's exactly what I needed to hear!
I think it will be great for ds but I do worry how we'll cope.
Maybe I should tell DH! Thank you.

My kids are 20 months apart and I agree with the above poster about it being difficult being heavily pregnant with a toddler! My daughter wanted me to hold her all the time so I got a bad back. But of course once baby came out my back returned to normal and all fine - excpet being tired all the time from lack of sleep :) But its all worth it. My baby and daughter are doing well, get along etc. My daughter is the best big sister and im glad we have them close in age.

Line getting darker definitely pg. DH very excited, I feel very sick!

Any more advice or hints and tips very welcome.

My DSs are just under 20 months apart. One advantage of this is when I was pregnant I could nap for two hours a day when DS1 went down. I needed it so much! The first 6 months of having 2 under 2 was really tough TBH (I have no family support around) but now they are 1 and 2.8 and they are growing closer every day. Do not worry about the amount of TV DS1 will watch in the first 6 months and make sure all your cupboards have kiddi-locks on them as you will not have time to clear up constant messes. I am so glad I had them close together and my life is a breeze now as they entertain each other. Congratulations xx

My small gap between the middle two is 14 months, honestly it was fine although tiring for the pregnancy first year.

Best of all there were no jealousy issues and as the grow up they are into similar things for longer, like trips to the park etc.

I went back to work for a while and then went back off on ML.

A playpen for putting the baby in is very helpful IMHO just so you know the older one won't accidently tread on them etc.

Firstly congrats!!

18 month gap for me. Echo what others have said first 6 months are tough they seem never ending at times but ds is 8 months now (where did that time go!!) and its getting easier every day!

I remember crying when pg (hormones?) thinking I would really upset dd, how could I disrupt her life so much? How wrong I was, dd didnt bat an eyelid, wasn't jealous at all. Recently I see the odd glimpse of the green eyed monster now that ds is interacting more but that is far outweighed by the giggles between the two of them, melts my heart everytime and its a sound I never tire of hearing :-)

As others have said don't worry about too much tv you can wean them off it later. I discovered that cbeebies morning shows are repeated in the afternoon but dd didn't seem to mind...

Small gap means potential for the double afternoon nap. Persistence has finally paid off and I now get 2 hours while they both nap to get jobs done properly or just do nowt!! Dreading dd dropping her afternoon nap!!

My theory re small gap was short-term pain = long term gain and so far 'pain' seems shorter than I imagined it would be

That's good to hear thank you

mine are 14 months and there is 11 months between me and my middle sister. I've only had great experiences, well most of the time! I actually found the early stage the easiest - when DS2 was born as they both slept at the same times and kept similar routines. It began to get trickier when DS2 began walking / running in the opposite direction of DS1! It's been my 'best mistake' so far....