Will it harm DD (8) for her dad to be her primary carer?

[Katymac]

He was when she was little (birth to 5) and I gave up my job started S/E and have kinda sort of spent more time with her

Except I have & I haven't. Sometimes we have spent more time together and sometimes we haven't

I am now about to take on an enormous project I will be working pretty much F/T (kinda like I am already)

She has been having lots of problems with bullying at school but that seems to be passing as she is moving onto a new school

I don't really know why I am posting

For validation maybe?

As long as he is the sort of dad who listens to her and actively engages with her, I'm sure it won't harm her one bit! It should give her a more deep and profound relationship with her dad than most kids have and that can't be a bad thing, can it?

Is that enough validation for you???

Mmmm yes I think that will do - Thanks

My DH works 2 days a week, I work 3 and its a good balance. When one works, the ohter looks after DD (almost 7) and DS (2). As sparkle said, as long as he is the sort of DAd who listens etc it can't be a bad thing.

You're not a bad mum for not being hte primary carer, families are so diverse nowadays - DH's parents don't really approve of our arrangement, but it suits our family and thats all that counts.

We are both primary carers in our family as we share pretty much down the middle. I think it can only be positive to have good male role model for your DD. I dont see any reasons why mum should be better than dad. Not at all.

Do you think it will harm your enormous project for you to take it on, or do you think it would be better if a man did it?

In otherwords, do you think men and women are equal, or not?

yeh I phrased it badly

I wouldn't worry Katy, really. I get the impression he's a bit of a hands-on dad anyway. And even if he wasn't, my father became primary carer for my youngest sister when she was 12ish, having NOT been hands-on at all, and they did fine.

why would it harm her??? unless you think he is not a good parent, in which case I guess you wouldn' be considering this!