what do you do when your dc start getting hyper and silly at other people's houses?

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just left dsis's house and feel deflated. we were there about an hour and a half. the first half hour was fine, but after that obviously boredom had set in and they started getting silly, e.g. too loud, lots of laughing and overactive.

they are not badly behaved in general, just two 'normal' energetic boys, but under these circumstances it usually ends like this. I just can't seem to calm them down once they've started.

what do you do if this happens to you? they are 7 and 5, 7 year old has been apologetic, "i promise I'll never do it again" since we left.

You leave faster. Zero tolerance, especially for the 7 year old who is old enough to understand acceptable behaviour in someone else's house. The first time he ignores a request to be quieter and you should be out of there like a speeding bullet, explaining exactly why.

Is it just because they were away from adults for a while? I think that sometimes you have to round them up for a bit where the grown ups are. Have a drink, maybe play a quick game.

My two have devised their own set of 'rules' for being at other people's houses. The aim of the rules were to get invited back. It's not quite the same if it's your own sisters house though.

Tire them out before you go (walk or playing if or football), don't let them have any screen time all day until you get to the house, and let them watch a film.

I have 2 boys, and IMO boys are like dogs, they need their exercise ( couple of hours a day!) or else they 'll go sillier than silly.

Why do they get hyper? Mine tend to if they are in the houses of elderly relatives so there are no tiys & lots of knick knacks. My solution is to take a bag of lego & some cars so they at least have something to play with & take them out for a run around every hour or so. Even a run up & down the pavement a few times can be sufficient.
The other time it happens is with a particular family where their DC and our DC just seem to wind each other into a frenzy of excitement. As its both sets of children, we tend to meet up at NT places or soft play or something.

take them home sharpish

my dsis has a 1 year old, so toys a bit boring for them. it's definitely boredom. they behave perfectly well at friends houses (although they all act like loons together then!). just leaving would be embarrassing, but maybe that's the answer.

We give him a Phone

Threaten to leave. You may have to follow through with this, but usually only once.

If it is boredom, why do you not take something for them to do?

I would never expect my DDs (10 and 8) to sit quietly at someone else's house with zero to do. That's not fair on them, or the hosts. If the people we are going to do not already have children with toys to play with, then I get my children to pack a bag of things to do whilst there. And yes, this would include family, or those with small children.

Beyond that, if they're still naughty, they've got no excuses, I'd take them home.

good suggestion, lechers. I'm feeling really disappointed in them right now. maybe that's wrong, just would expect the 7 year old especially to be a bit more considerate and aware. well, I'm obviously not doing a very good job .

No, lose of course, it's not down to bad parenting, but my 10 year old wouldn't be capable of just watching tv for an hour / playing on a phone etc... I just wonder whether you're being a bit harsh on them? They're children, children get bored etc, it's what children do!

Buy a rucksack of games, that you specifically have for out and about and normal stuff like colouring pens if they like that sort of thing. If it's not their everyday stuff, they should get bored less quickly!

Yes bring some of their toys with them to play wi6th. If they only have toddler toys to play with, they will make entertainment themselves. Lego is a good option.