Baby sleeps all day but awake most of night

[blondebaby111]

I know it's still early days but our 13 day old baby loves to sleep all day but be very active at night. The first few nights were tough ( we expected that) but once we got over that we were managing at least 4 hours in between night Feeds. We thought we had cracked it and were telling people how great it was to be in a routine so soon.

However we spoke too soon, the past few nights I give her her last feed at 11 and then she just won't sleep , I end up being up with her til at least 3 am where all she wants to do feed and cry. I'm getting a bit agitated now because my dh is back to work tomorrow and I don't want him tired or stressed. She is formula fed and so contented during the day....am I doing something wrong?? Or has age still got day and night confused ??

Congratulations on your new addition!

My Dc2 had night and day mixed up. It was so tiring. Everyone said it would pass (it did) but I felt like a zombie!

What possibly worked for us is I treated it like jet lag. I sat in the sunshine (I don't live in the uk so this wasn't too tough for us!) and spent the weekend outdoors during daylight so bubs would get fresh air.

In saying that it worked for us -perhaps bubs just worked it out and I had nothing to do with it!

I also spent a fortune on tv shows to watch on my ipad during those night hours.

Be patient. Most babies remain confused between the differences of day and night. They take time to adjust to the family timetable in a month or so. However you can coax him to more reasonable schedule after he becomes few weeks old.

If you are worried about your DH, could he sleep in another room?

Agree with the others, all of this sounds perfectly normal. Try to get her outside at least once a day. Know the weather is lousy but see if you can get DH to take her out for a walk once she's been fed. The sunlight should eventually help to reset her body clock.

Other than that, keep days very bright and busy, and night quiet and dark.

How long is she going between feeds in the day? And have you read Babycalming by Caroline Deacon?

She's going 3 hours between feeds during the day but nighttime constantly hungry and Whiney. I think because wedged a few good nights I hoped it would continue, ax long as I know it's normal I'm fine xx

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Oh 13 days is so tiny! Congratulations! It's normal and it passes. It was about 8 weeks for us. Not much you can do, just nap when you can and remember that it's perfectly normal!

I have read that 6 weeks is when the baby actually adjusts to the night/ day pattern - it's normal and it's very unlikely that any pattern of feeding or sleeping will
Actually set in for a few months tbh - until then there will be lots of changes

It's exhausting but it will get better - make sure baby gets lots of sunlight if possible especially late afternoon

You could try waking baby after 3 hours in day?

But it's completely normal at 2 weeks old to be up a lot in the night - we did lots of walking around at 2am with ds in a sling ...

It passes ....

My paed said 8 weeks was normal for babies to take to adjust -took 7 weeks for us. Might seem like a fair way off right now but having a "deadline" helped me get through it.

Ha I'm with ya ?? dd is four months now things are getting better but she's up till 2 maybe 3 am. EBF but now and again a ff top up if I feel knackered.
Nap when baby naps. Wake for a feed during the day.
Subscribe to Netflix or similar as that saved my sanity.
It will pass especially for a ff baby, dd1 was ff and slept a dream from 8 weeks old.
DH will have to invest in ear plugs

Think the ff equals sleep thing is a bit of a myth things. Know your dd slept but my DM is always keen to point out that I was ff and hardly ever slept whereas my DSister was bf and slept through from 6 weeks.

Our dd (9 weeks) was like this for the first couple of weeks, dh and didn't go to bed together for the first week, we took it in 3 hour shifts!

Have you tried white noise? It doesn't work for all babies but for us it's been a godsend and dd has slept pretty much straight through with it every night since, I do think as well as helping her sleep she associates it with bedtime now if that makes sense.